Without a sense of humour our lives would be too serious, so in some respects it’s important for us to have one. What happens though when humour gets in the way of our relationships; when it becomes bigger than the relationship itself, when we expect others to conform to our behaviour?
Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to equate what people say as being humorous because it’s very much part of our culture now. More people use humour to communicate; but there are still those of course who don’t buy into this lifestyle who will often get caught up in the crossfire. To live comfortably with someone who uses humour, we would have to exhibit the same traits.
The most common humour:
Bitchy humour: is often used to bitch about someone or something. Whether you’re talking about someone or something it’s easy to fall into the trap where you’re doing it all the time. It’s not great to bitch about anyone, but it seems to be an accepted part of society.
Insulting humour: is taken in the manner of poking fun at, an insult, or speaking badly about another person that becomes totally inappropriate in conversations. Those who use sarcasm may also use insulting behaviour.
Sarcasm: Dictionary defined, sarcasm speaks for itself. “In sarcasm, ridicule or mockery is used harshly, often crudely and contemptuously, for destructive purposes. It may be used in an indirect manner, and have the form of irony.”
Sarcasm is the most destructive of all humour. When used continually it’s hurtful and annoying. It’s also often difficult for anyone to answer back on someone’s sarcastic remark and from my own experience, it’s not always easy to work out when someone is being sarcastic and ‘the other person doesn’t get it.’
No one should have to conform or compete with someone’s humour. Having a sense of humour is important, but the wrong kind of humour in reality, makes relationships difficult and puts distance between two people.