I never assume. I ask questions then I know, so then I don’t have to assume, or live with an outcome I don’t want. But there have been two enormously difficult events in my life where I felt it was right to stand back and assume an outcome and not to ask questions that would have brought about a different ending for me, but the right ending for someone else.
When we assume we take it that something will happen instead of making sure it will happen, but we may also come out with an ending we didn’t anticipate, but an ending we have to learn to accept. Assuming something is never the same as knowing; but we must always weigh up the circumstances so that we work out whether it’s right to go with assume, rather than to go with knowing for sure.
It will always depend on the circumstances, what’s gone on and how hard of a challenge it’s been for us to get to that point. Circumstances that change don’t always have to be negative. Always look positively at how the circumstances work out. Was the outcome we were left with more positive than negative? Was it right to leave those circumstances to chance instead of knowing for sure? If the answer to that question is Yes, then we did the right thing.
Whatever the circumstances, we may have already worked out why it was right to have assumed, rather than for us to know for sure. It’s always important to look at the bigger picture, of how we got to a particular point. Often depending on how difficult our circumstances are, we may just resign ourselves to a new outcome, which often works out okay.