When a parent or parents let their children down, it gives their children an insight in how not to do things.
On a child’s part, they can never make up for, or change their experiences. It doesn’t right a wrong or make their experiences right, nor does it change the status quo on their relationship with their parents. When parents let their children down they’re inadvertently giving their children the tools to change things for themselves.
That’s no excuse for them getting things wrong. We must consciously work through each individual experience and make a mental note of any changes we need to make. It’s important not to get caught up in the whys and wherefores of being let down, because those will keep us emotionally stuck and unable to move on.
It’s not an excuse for anyone who experiences trauma, neglect and negativity not to do anything about changing their own responses. Accepting our experiences without change, means those experiences will go on to play out in other circumstances.
Mental health and mental health issues will also ‘become a thing’ when we continue to hone in on the injustice and it’s not something we will mentally change. Even though others had let me down through personal and long-term institutional failings, it wasn’t right for me to let others down.
Letting people down even though we may have been let down ourselves shouldn’t be a consideration. As ‘my story’ shows, life tends to work better and in our favour when we create new experiences.