There are days when I emotionally and mentally struggle. Being brought into other people’s confidence over the years, them watching me struggle; doing nothing about it and me trusting them.
Not knowing about cerebral palsy wouldn’t have been such an issue if my mental and emotional issues had been dealt with. We cope when we are supported, but when we’re not, trust becomes the issue.
The dark side of trust lies within the dynamics of a relationship. We don’t go into a relationship thinking about trust, we assume it’s already there. We have a certain unconscious expectation about that.
Trust starts in childhood. Children form a secure attachment to their environment and their parents through trust. It’s not something they will stop to question until something becomes obvious; it took me too many years to make the correlation.
But trust is necessary for a child’s psychological development. It is relevant to mental health. How parents communicate with each other will either add to a child’s wellbeing, or will damage a child’s trust of them.
Parents who lack integrity are duplicitous, in other words their actions don’t correspond with their words. In those circumstances, their mixed messages will destroy a child’s self-esteem, confidence, sense of reality and their sense of self.
Trust should be based on honesty and openness. It is important children believe what they’re being told. Although trust is the glue that holds relationships together, trust can sometimes become the issue.
It is trust that facilitates positive emotional connections between people. It is important we get that right.