How many people you might know who go through life whining, without actually doing anything to solve their problems?
If I have a problem, or I’m not happy about something I’ll try and fix it. Having been around people who continually whine, I’m learning to do things differently.
Whining never stops. Even when I have tried to change the subject, another subject brings-up something else for them to whine about. Perhaps we need to focus on trying not to whine, in the same way we need to focus on refraining from other bad habits. Like everything else it’s a pattern, learned behaviour that needs unlearning and relearning again.
Whining is something we may see. From an early age we may copy what we see. If our parents’ whine, we might do the same. When the focus or attention, is about the person whining and not the initial problem, it makes it harder to solve the problem and achieve a positive outcome.
What they may not realise is, that when someone else has to listen to them, it’s horrible. Those who may whine don’t usually take an active role in solving their problems, they may just actively whine their way through them.
So, next time we’re not happy about something, we should stand back and think about the problem. Perhaps focus on getting our point across, mediate and move on. Then we may begin to notice just how productive and successful we can be.