Wilful neglect

The definition of ‘wilful’ amounts to reckless, intentional, or reflects a ‘couldn’t care less attitude’. When a parent does something that is wilful, they consciously make a decision. That isn’t the same thing as unconsciously struggling to parent your child.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (‘CBT’) helps me see and understand more of my experiences so that I’m looking at the bigger picture, a different angle on the angle I have. What is incredulous is that through wilful neglect others live their lives around us, without so much of a conscience.

Since everything we do is down to freewill, this is also freewill. We consciously make the choices we make. But like we have freewill to make our decisions, we also have freewill to unmake those decisions. We have freewill to choose to support others, in the same way we have freewill not to.

It is hard for anyone to know that what they had to deal with was ‘wilful neglect.’ That those close to us wittingly fail to address our needs, like those needs didn’t matter, like we didn’t matter.

For me, my neurological issues make up the biggest part of my disability and that is what I struggled with the most. What is sad is the quality of life I could have had without all my mental and emotional struggles.


19 Mar, 2019

2 thoughts on “Wilful neglect

  1. No child should be the subject of wilful neglect as opposed though an unfortunate set of circumstances beyond a parent’s control, such as poverty.

    There is simply no excuse and to impose that on a child is wrong. As you say, none of this is on you, it will always be on those who inflicted this on you.

    You were a child!

    1. Thanks. As you say none of this is on me and I agree. But when that guilt has nowhere to go it is easy to think you need to carry it. I know better than to do that.

      My blog has been instrumental in helping me to come to terms with my past. But those instrumental need to accept their parts and own it for themselves.

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