The definition of ‘wilful’ amounts to reckless, intentional, or reflects a ‘couldn’t care less attitude’. When a parent does something that is wilful, they consciously make a decision. That isn’t the same thing as unconsciously struggling to parent your child.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (‘CBT’) helps me see and understand more of my experiences so that I’m looking at the bigger picture, a different angle on the angle I have. What is incredulous is that through wilful neglect others live their lives around us, without so much of a conscience.
Since everything we do is down to freewill, this is also freewill. We consciously make the choices we make. But like we have freewill to make our decisions, we also have freewill to unmake those decisions. We have freewill to choose to support others, in the same way we have freewill not to.
It is hard for anyone to know that what they had to deal with was ‘wilful neglect.’ That those close to us wittingly fail to address our needs, like those needs didn’t matter, like we didn’t matter.
For me, my neurological issues make up the biggest part of my disability and that is what I struggled with the most. What is sad is the quality of life I could have had without all my mental and emotional struggles.