From an early age, we learn from our parents and society how important it is for us to win, but I believe we need to know what it means to lose, more than what it means for us to win.
If children win all the time, they will never know what it means to lose. We learn so much more about sportsmanship from losing, more than we do from winning. We learn more about the value of losing when we come to examine our loss and understand why we didn’t win.
We can be prepared, trained, focused and experienced and still not win, but losing is an inevitable part of the process; we cannot be winners all the time. Over a lifetime we will lose more than we will win, so it’s important we know how to deal with losing.
We are all winners and need to recognise we are, even if we lose. Just because we lose doesn’t mean we are losers. If the average child in school finishes last in the egg and spoon race there may be various reasons why that child didn’t win. We must always reassess.
Finishing a challenge makes us a winner. Trying to win is a challenge in itself and that makes us a winner. Society should embrace both in equal measures. Generally there is too much emphasis placed on winning and not enough on losing. If more people came to lose instead of winning, they’d be classed as winners for losing.
It would also make winning sweeter. Like the stigma behind disability there is also a stigma behind losing. It’s okay for us to lose. We’re all winners, whether we come first or we come last. It’s our perceptions that need to change.