From an early age, we learn from our parents and society how significant it is for us to win, but what it means to lose is even more important.
We can be prepared, trained, focused and experienced and still not win. Losing is an inevitable part of life, we cannot be winners all the time. Over a lifetime, we will lose more than we will win, so it is important we know how to deal with it.
Even if we lose, we need to recognise that we are all still winners. Finishing a challenge makes us a winner. Trying to win is a challenge, and overcoming any challenge also makes us a winner. Society should be embracing both in equal measures.
If a child in school finishes last in the egg and spoon race, there may be various reasons why that child didn’t win and, although it doesn’t feel good to lose, losing helps us to learn valuable lessons.
Like the stigma attached to disability, there is also a stigma behind losing: that perhaps a person is weak or didn’t try, but it’s okay for us to lose, we must be okay with it. Whether we come first or last we are all still winners. It is therefore our perceptions that need to change.