I don’t look for comparisons in other people, I tend to concentrate on my own life, but every now and again I will see a documentary where something resonates with me.
Last week I was watching the road trip documentary with James Corden and Gary Barlow from ‘Take That.’ When ‘Take that split’ and was getting bad press, he found it difficult to cope, so for 8 years he decided he would become invisible. For that split second I went back in time and that was my life.
As the documentary unfolded and Gary Barlow went on to explain his life in more detail, it became clear why he chose to withdraw from public life. He may have had different reasons for wanting to shy away from his public persona, which were different to my reasons, but the emotional side of any circumstances will always lead us to the same place.
I believe we will go through periods in our life where we learn to cope better away from the limelight. I also believe hibernation can be a useful tool as long as we work at, understand and come to terms with what we have to deal with in our lives, if only for a short while, or while we’re going through hard times.
I did a lot of my thinking in that time. The danger is getting stuck in that place and doing nothing about what we must really try to deal with. Hibernation is fine as a stopgap, but that’s all it can be.