In our less than perfect world, being taken for granted seems to have become part of the norm. In most relationships once the honeymoon period is over, complacency sets in.
I don’t believe we’re always consciously aware of our behaviour and that’s perhaps why we don’t behave appropriately with the ones we love. We can’t always be in control of our subconscious thoughts, or what goes on around us, but we can take control of how we behave with each other.
I believe that our behaviour is often mirrored through those subconscious thoughts I talk about. Like a book that unfolds, the more positive experiences we have, the more positive our conscious thoughts will be and the more in control we’ll be.
We tend to lash out at the ones who mean the most to us. We assume they’ll stick around and yet we still treat them badly. We never stop to think about how fortunate we are. How we behave with friends is how we should behave with those we love. On both counts our behaviour should be the same.
I believe all relationships must work on mutual respect. I also believe all relationships will flourish and the bond between two people will grow stronger when we work on giving and receiving respect. Respect is earned, not a certainty.
That person begins to feel valued, as if they’ve done and accomplished good things. There is no doubt in my mind though, that if we are willing to apply all the above, then this will happen.