In my previous blog, I wrote about taking responsibility for our past so that we can move on and look to our future, but like many things in life, in reality it’s never that simple or easy to do.
These are my thoughts about the past and how we can change learned unhelpful bad patterns. Remember this is on an unconscious level. I have had to work on this myself: I am coming from a place of experience.
We unconsciously condition ourselves to believe that we can’t enjoy our lives because of things that have happened to us, whether we are responsible for those or not. We condition our thoughts to hone the past.
We put barriers up to protect ourselves from further hurt and disappointment, without realising that our actions will bring more disappointment. But our lives will never improve by fearful thinking.
An unconscious obsession with the past will always bring predispositions to failure in the present. The memories we hold have no power to harm us, it is the emotions that are associated with them that create resentment and anger.
The mental stress of holding on to bad memories and experiences are self-inflicted, which will hurt us more. Those emotions are like a time bomb waiting to go off. We need to let them go and release them completely, so that we can move on.
The way we think is the way we choose to think. If we choose to think happy thoughts we will be happy in the same way, if we choose to think negative thoughts, we will be negative.
We need to be aware that what is holding us back is what we have chosen to hold on to. We need to be equally aware that we are free to choose to let go of those thoughts, once we’ve dealt with them.