I remember my father once telling me when he was ill that it doesn’t matter what you deal with, you’re on your own. Whether you’re dealing with a redundancy; a broken leg; or something else that changes the way we get to deal with life, ultimately you’re dealing with it on your own.
It’s not that others don’t want to help, but no one but us can sort out our problems. Of course we may have empathy for what others deal with, but the realities are that once the door is shut, we’re very much on our own.
Of course, most people are well intentioned. I remember when a neighbour knocked on to see how Daniel was doing when she first heard from another neighbour that he had been assaulted. Now things have gone quiet.
As we go about our daily lives, we tend to forget what other people deal with, as we try to deal with our own problems. We forget to ask, or think about other people. Looking out the window some more, as I began to think those thoughts, people we’re still hurrying about their lives.
For a split second it felt like that everyone around us had forgotten what we were going through. That’s the way life goes.