Self-love exercises can be mastered by creating routines that allow us to concentrate on ourselves, but it’s something we continually have to practice.
We must put ourselves back in the driving seat and that takes practice. When it comes to family there is a lot of pressure for us to conform. We’re often expected to think about and put others first.
The routines below can easily be incorporated into our life:
Listen to yourself
Find somewhere to sit quietly and allow your mind space to talk to you. Get to know yourself. Pay attention to your thoughts without judgment and let the truths emerge. What you listen to is what you will learn. Let what you learn, inform the way you understand yourself so that you can move yourself towards a greater self-acceptance.
Learn to care for yourself
But first we must learn to like ourselves.Without liking ourselves, we can never get to know or care for ourselves. Get to know you. Look at the things you like about yourself and work on the things you don’t like. Think about the things you give up to do for others and give yourself time to do those things for yourself.
Look at your qualities
Are you a caring person? Do you go out of your way to help people or is your life simply about you? Are you self-absorbed, conceited, or stubborn? But however you are, it’s important you work on the things you need to change.
Although we know ourselves well enough to know what we need to change, instead we spend a lifetime arguing against what others see that we’re in denial for. Just don’t argue, accept those things belong to you.
It’s important not to hone-in-on all the mistakes you’ve made on the back of your childhood. Beating yourself up won’t improve your potential, your outlook, neither will it change the past. Instead try to look at it as a stepping-stone. A way to move forward with a purposeful understanding.
But self-love takes practice. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s making lifestyle choices about yourself. The long-term aim is to love yourself, but liking yourself is the first step.
Self-love is something that needs to be continually honed because it’s not something that stays with us for good. Our earlier environment, our parentage and childhood and everyday stress can change how we feel about ourselves.