A John Wooden quote

Something inspirational:

“Being a role model is the most powerful form of educating… too often fathers neglect it because they get so caught up in making a living they forget to make a life.”


4 Sep, 2014

6 thoughts on “A John Wooden quote

  1. So true. Our children learn so much from us in that they emulate us, doing the things we do. We want our children to learn things but not the wrong things. That’s why we need to be careful how we act in front of them.

    I do think that fathers are too busy trying to make the money in the family, but they need to have a happy medium where there are family times and work times. I know my husband doesn’t spend as much time with our son as he should. A child (especially boys) need their father.

    They can teach children just as much as moms do, but in a different way.

    1. Thanks Lisa and I agree. I believe this quote is true. Definitely spot on based on my own experiences; but it’s so important for both parents to have the same parental input, 50/50.

  2. I have mixed feelings about this because I know my father loved us, but seemed resentful at the same time for having to take care of us!

    We always knew that he remarried our mother to keep us from going to foster homes which didn’t make us feel very wanted, at least for me. There were just so many mixed messages that it’s no wonder I haven’t wanted to even be here for so long.

    My father barely made a living, let alone provided a “life” for us. He seemed more interested in having his booze or sex with my mother than taking care of his own children.

    I’m just feeling a lot of feelings since my friend’s father just died and I know mine isn’t much longer for this world too!

    1. Thanks Randy. Part of the problem is what society expects. In the earlier days, men were expected to go out to work, while their wives stayed home to look after the children.

      Unfortunately those are my own experiences too. I think society needs to change its attitude towards the roles of both parents, so that fathers are included in the equation too. I also think father’s (some) also need to change their own attitude towards their children and family life.

      Culture also play its part unfortunately.

  3. My father left this world in 2006 and a piece of me went with him. He was the sole bread winner in the family during some very difficult times, often working two and sometimes three jobs to make ends meet. We were the happiest poor children on the block, although we didn’t know we were poor. My father assumed the role of both mom and dad for many years until my mother emerged from her drunkenness.

    I also think it’s important for both parents to have equal parental input; but I’ve watched society devalue the importance of fatherhood and emasculate men into irrelevance over the years.

    I think men and women should not follow the latest political statement and begin to understand their natural role as parents.

    1. Thanks Tim. From what you describe your father sounds like such a wonderful caring man. I’m not sure this quote really applies to your situation, solely because your father had no choice, given the circumstances with your mom. He made the decision any father would have made given his circumstances. Given easier circumstances, I am sure he would have done more with his kids.

      I think you’re right, society does devalue the importance of fatherhood, but in a way it also devalues women’s roles too. Women are still not seen as the breadwinners and are less equal to men in many ways, but I agree when it comes to children women do have more input with their children.

      That said, I still believe it’s up to us as individuals to make decisions based around the relationship with our children. I have changed many things as far as my own children are concerned from how things were in my own childhood. If I hadn’t have made those changes, my children would have had no support or input over the years and wouldn’t be following the paths they are now as independent and balanced individuals.

      The problem we often have is that we take what we know from our own parents and emulate those patterns into our own relationships with our children, without changing anything. We must learn to think and act on our own regardless of society and our own parentage.

      We mustn’t allow ourselves to be pigeon-holed.

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