A Lisa Brooks quote

Something inspirational:

“I’ve learned that things change, people change, and it doesn’t mean you forget the past or try to cover up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means accepting that some things weren’t meant to be.”


8 Mar, 2015

10 thoughts on “A Lisa Brooks quote

  1. Letting go has never been an easy thing for me, considering the way I grew up with parents who held grudges all the time.

    They never seemed to forget anything and just kept dwelling on the same issues over and over to the point of just wanting to scream to make them stop! It’s no wonder I have such a hard time with it.

    I just know there are a lot of things I need to let go of, so I don’t become just another bitter old man!

    1. Thanks Randy. I believe that harbouring the same negativity over and over again is a human failing. It’s a pattern that once formed, is difficult to change. The good part is that some of us are able to recognise those traits and will choose to change our own thinking.

      You recognise your parents’ misgivings and that’s great Randy. There was so much in my own upbringing that I was aware of that I didn’t like that I vowed to change for my own children, if I was lucky enough to have any and that’s exactly what I’ve done.

      I think sometimes we have to let go for the sake of our sanity. Letting go also means we’re not willing to tolerate what we know has the potential to harm.

  2. I love this quote; it serves as a constant reminder that with every goodbye we must embrace change with our heads up and our eyes open. And the last paragraph tells me that letting go doesn’t mean that I’ve failed; it means my experience only prepared me for something better.

    This quote resonates with me because it pretty much describes what’s happening in my life today. It’s like moving through a maze and feeling that my life is waiting for me at the other end.

    I’m not running away from people and circumstances, I’m simply divorcing them. It’s about cleaning out my closet and moving to a place where I know I need to be.

    1. Ditto on your thoughts Tim.

      I believe you’re right; our experiences often prepare us for something better, although at the time it’s not always easy to equate that is what our experiences are doing.

      I think that if we can take guilt out of the equation, we will begin to perceive our lives differently. Our experiences are our lessons and once a lesson is learned, it becomes time for us to move on, to experience new experiences.

      That doesn’t mean we’ve failed, it means we’ve grown through the experience. I don’t see myself running from my past either. I choose to understand my past, then I can make more of an informed choice about whether I need to move on.

      I think more of us should move to a place that serves us. Too often we get stuck. That place should be somewhere where we feel, calm and at peace and as you rightly say, where we know we need to be.

  3. My childhood might not have been ideal, but I want to think I have come to accept it.

    It doesn’t mean I don’t feel negative feelings when I do think about it, it means I don’t let it ruin what I have now. It would not be fair for my children, if I am always sour because of my past.

    What I have gone through have made me who I am today, every hardship and blessing have taught me something.

    1. Thanks Maria. I absolutely love your response. Your thoughts are inspirational; because whilst admitting what you’ve gone through you also see and understand why your experiences should lie firmly at your own door.

      You’re absolutely right it’s important not to let our past ruin what we have with our families. Like you, I also believe our hardships and blessings teach us everything about our experiences, so that we are able to remain strong and focused, given what we deal with.

  4. I also like this quote, especially the part where she says that because we’ve chosen to let things go doesn’t mean we’ve failed.

    I think we move on because we see that nothing will change for us, if we dwell on the past. Some things can’t be fixed and letting go is the best thing we can do, so we can experience new and more positive things.

    1. Thanks Maria. Yes you’re absolutely right. It’s not to say that others won’t think we’ve failed, but as long as we have our own understanding on why we set out to choose a different path, then that’s absolutely fine and the right thing to do.

      As you suggest, the only way to experience new and more positive things is to shut the door firmly closed.

  5. Good quote, it really says it all. I do think the last part should be that things weren’t meant to last.

    Just because people move on don’t mean it wasn’t meant to be, just that people do move on with their lives and you can still have a relationship, but less involved.

    1. Thanks Lisa. Yes Sometimes people move on and close the door; others will move on and be less involved. Whatever our reasons, I believe (as you do too) things are always meant to be the way they turn out.

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