A quote about control

Something inspirational:

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.”


28 Mar, 2013

8 thoughts on “A quote about control

  1. So true! If you crave things you can’t have how can anything get better? If you take control of what you can, you can change things and your life will be easier.

    You can’t control others. You can’t make them do what you want them to do. They have to make their own decisions for their life, be it right or wrong. Controlling your own life is what we all should do.

    We will be happier knowing things are better because we took control for ourselves.

  2. I think a lot of people out there that try to control everything in their lives. They get angry when they can’t control something and I find that a bit silly.

    Why can’t they simply fix things they have control to fix and forget about the ones they can’t? I guess some people are just control freaks.

    I try to forget things that I can’t control even though sometimes I might worry about them.

    1. I think you’re right Maria. I know one or two people who try to control everything so they know what’s happening at every given point. There are just some circumstances where we have to put our trust in the universe that things will work out or trust in other people.

      I think it depends on how insecure or secure we feel about ourselves and what we deal with. When people feel the need to control everything there clearly are insecurity issues.

      I tend to work on the assumption like yourself, that the things I have control over that I can put right and bring closure on I will. I agree it’s not easy to forget about the things we have no control over, because those things still need dealing with whether we have control over them or not.

      To some extent we all need to be in control of course. I think it’s important to have control in our lives, but when that control spills over to other people and in other areas of our lives, then those issues will always become bigger problems.

  3. Craving control is dangerous. I have a family member who always feels like he has to be in control.

    As a result he has very few family and friends around him. But he cannot see the lack of people around him is due to his behavior. I think he honestly does not care at this point. It must be his way or the highway.

    1. To always have and feel the need to have control in this way is dangerous. I think you’re right. Eventually that kind of control will begin to alienate family and friends. I have seen it myself. No one wants to be with someone who has to have control in that way.

      As you rightly say for the family member you’re referring to, ‘it’s his way or the highway.’ It’s a good expression and so true, but such a shame.

  4. Yes, it usually comes down to control issues, which is what I’ve battled my whole life!

    It has taken me a very long time to realize the difference between what I can and can’t control in my life.

    Now if I could just remember that more often, my life would be that much better off.

    1. Control issues brought about by someone else are very hard to break. To some extent that has been my life too, but there comes a time where once you recognise these issue you can begin to do something about changing them.

      You have control to change your life Randy, you just have to see that you can have control and then you can do something about it.

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