6 thoughts on “A quote by Brene Brown

  1. It usually has a lot more to do with making others happy, as in being the perfect wife or husband, or even an athlete.

    A prime example happens to be Bruce Jenner who won the Decathlon in the Olympics, but ended up wanting to be the perfect woman in the end.

    I have wasted most of my life trying to be perfect, when I was anything but, as far as what other people thought of me. My mother expected me to be the perfect son and treat her like a queen, while my dad wouldn’t have noticed if I would have become a doctor and cured cancer.

    The only time they ever really noticed me was when they wanted something from me so that’s how I was used to being treated. Now I have to finally stop worrying so much about being perfect, when it isn’t possible for me or anyone else.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, striving for perfection has never been my thing. Perhaps that’s something your parents were trying to do.

      Perhaps they were trying to show the outside world that their lives were perfect, even though you and your siblings knew your lives were far from perfect.

      That when we strive to do things perfectly, we’re telling the world our life is less than perfect. We tend to lose a part of us, as we outwardly look to make things perfect.

      I do think it’s important we just try to do our best.

  2. Seeking perfection is like looking for the end of a rainbow. It’s just not achievable as there is no such thing.

    The sooner we learn that the happier we will be, especially if people’s expectations were realistic; instead of putting us under pressure to be ‘perfect’ because of their insecurity.

    1. Thank you. Yes, us being under pressure has nothing to do with us, but as you say to do with the other person.

      Sadly, society has taken this tack and have been running with it for years. Teenagers strive for beauty and perfection, when the reality is beauty is skin deep and doing our best should be enough.

      Children aren’t taught about spirituality or about character in schools and think these are immensely important.

      They are the difference between a calm and peaceful existence and a life that brings with it more emotional strife.

  3. Those people who strive for perfection will drive themselves mad. No one is perfect, so why try to do things to look good in the eyes of others?

    If we just try our best and lower our tolerance for the frenzy of perfection our lives would be so much happier.

    So we should all embrace our little slice of happiness and cheer on those that do their best and accomplish their goals instead of criticising the short comings of those achievements.

    1. Thanks Maria. You’re absolutely right. You’ve brought up so many thoughts in your response. and you’re right on all fronts.

      I’m not sure how or why we try to impress or why we’ve lowered our tolerance, or even if our tolerance was there? But the goal posts and boundaries seem to have been moved a lot since I was a child.

      We had more simple needs back then. Kicking a ball was considered fun. We had little in the way of technology. We had more patience and tolerance for each other.

      Whilst moving on with technology is not an altogether bad thing, I think in doing so, we’ve moved too far forward, and have forgotten the basics, and have moved too far away from our roots.

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