A quote by Potus

24 Nov 2016

Something inspirational:

“You can’t let failures define you, you have to let them teach you.”

POTUS

‘Happy Thanksgiving’ to all my American Readers and friends.

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  1. Randy 24. Nov, 2016 at 1:14 pm #

    Yes, I have allowed my failures to define me for most of my life. I was always focused on all the wrong things I did, rather than trying to focus on the things I did right. My parents always seemed to be focusing on the negatives in their lives and we suffered accordingly.

    We were so often judged by their mistakes that they seemingly became ours, even though it wasn’t the truth. If you hear people saying it all the time, eventually you come to believe it’s true. I was a great kid at one time and I could have done so much more with my life than I have.

    I have to figure out now what I can do with the rest of my life so I can feel like I accomplished something in my life and did at least a little bit of good in the time I was here!

    • Ilana 24. Nov, 2016 at 1:36 pm #

      Thanks Randy. Yes, you’ve hit the nail on the head. A human failing I feel that we are constantly being judged by others.

      Being angry, I certainly had my moments as a child, and because of that I spent a lifetime being blamed and judged. This was not because I’d done anything wrong, but because it was easy for others to pass the buck in my direction.

      Because I was angry it was also easy for others to get away with it as those who should have protected me continued to cast doubt on my integrity. It’s unfortunate that people are quick to side with others, see other people’s mistakes as ours; instead of understanding the full facts on what is the truth.

      I think if more of us were open to what is staring us in the face, we would alter our perceptions, we’d all get on better and those who should be brought to task because of their behaviour, would be brought to task instead of getting away with the things they get away with.

      In your case, those who were in contact with your family should have known the faults of your parents, instead of you being judged for their mistakes.

  2. Tim 24. Nov, 2016 at 3:29 pm #

    My failures somehow produced my success, as if things were meant to happen a certain way. The Universe works in mysterious ways, I’d say.

    Happy Thanksgiving to all!

    • Ilana 24. Nov, 2016 at 3:34 pm #

      Thanks Tim. Happy Thanksgiving!! Yes, I think our failures can produce some of our successes, but for others their failures can make them spiral, because they’re not always strong enough to push against the tide that closes in on them.

      I agree with you though that things are meant to happen a certain way. The Universe works, not always in the way we expect or anticipate, but we get to where are meant to be, not necessarily where we want to be.

  3. Bonnie Johns 26. Nov, 2016 at 9:52 am #

    When my girls were babies, I made the mistake of attending college, plus I had a full-time job. It lasted a total of 4 months, but because I was so physically exhausted and mentally, I had to quit my job.

    Could I have stuck it out? Possibly, but I didn’t want to collapse either!! Is that a failure? I don’t know. Now I have student loan debt too.

    I try real hard to bat my failures away and focus on not creating any more. Being judged by some members of my family, because of my limitations, makes it hard for me to separate what a failure is and whether or not I can or cannot do certain things.

    Thank you we had a great Thanksgiving! I cooked all day, with a little help; but not too much. It turned out real well.

    • Ilana 26. Nov, 2016 at 10:16 am #

      Honest opinion Bonnie, these things are never mistakes, particularly if we learn from them and I believe you did.

      We learn how to navigate life through our choices, but it’s only when we look back that we see them as mistakes and they’re not, it’s just our take on what we think is a mistake.

      You will have learned a lot through those four months. You’re an independent thinking woman, who wanted to have a crack at bettering herself and earning money in the process. You cannot see that as a mistake, but an experience to be gained from.

      It helps of course when we have family support. When I look back on the lack of support I got, I see those times as other people’s mistakes and failings. I didn’t fail in my own endeavours. Others failed me.

      It’s up to family to help us succeed. I believe at that time you made the right choice for you. You didn’t fail. You had physical challenges to meet. They had to come first.

      Glad your Thanksgiving went well.

  4. Bonnie Johns 28. Nov, 2016 at 6:17 am #

    Awww thank you Ilana that makes me feel a lot better about the situation. And yes, it is up to family to raise their kids and help guide them to success!

    In your case, I see it’s obvious you were able to reach your goals and succeed on your own, when your support group was lacking and failing.

    YOU my dear are an amazing, wonderful, smart soul and person.

    • Ilana 28. Nov, 2016 at 7:19 am #

      Awww thank you Bonnie.

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