8 thoughts on “A quote by Robert Brault

  1. Yes it does and I’m still learning to accept it. It’s a longer process than wanted.

    Maybe it’s the healing that’s taking so long.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. Yes, the healing process is a long one, but perhaps there’s another way for us to look at this. What someone says or does is about them and not us. There is clearly a reason or issue as to why people lash out.

      It doesn’t make what they’ve done right, but looking at the bigger picture does bring understanding on our part of why they’ve done what they’ve done.

      Whatever someone does, it doesn’t mean they’re off the hook. We’re still responsible for what we do, until we apologise then we right a wrong.

      For those of us on the receiving end, where we don’t get our apology those others are responsible for that. But this is not something we should carry.

      We must never condone bad behaviour, but we must have understanding on their behaviour and that brings about acceptance without an apology.

        1. Hi Robert, welcome to the site and thank you for posting. I love quotes that allow us to change the way we think about things like your quote. Quotes that show us a different way to think and be.

          Sadly, we can’t always change others. We can’t also expect other people to behave in the way we think they should, but we can change the way we see and deal with those people.

          I absolutely agree with you when you say that life does become easier when we learn to accept the apology we never got.

          That learning to accept what we can’t change does help with healing, particularly if we know in our hearts we couldn’t change things, but know we tried.

          We need to let go and let the healing process begin.

  2. The swagger I have, as a spiritual person, comes from knowing that time heals, eventually. That apologies come from remorseful souls begging to atone.

    But if I want an apology in the moment, I’ll go crazy.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, from my own life’s experiences, the apologies aren’t always forthcoming.

      I agree with you that apologies can come from remorseful souls, but they have to feel remorseful for that to happen.

      But when it comes to apologies, we have to want to apologise. Society sadly teaches us differently. That we don’t always have to apologise.

      It’s easy to go stir crazy waiting for an apology, but perhaps that’s better than living with stress and anxiety around waiting for the apology.

  3. Well I must be a one of a kind person, because I don’t expect apologies. When someone does me wrong I usually expect that I won’t get one so that I’m not disappointed.

    I just chalk it up to life and people being assholes! And then I usually say that they should ask God for forgiveness. Because I’m just a person and I’m not perfect either.

    1. Thanks Maria. Yes, when we don’t expect we’re not disappointed and that can potentially work, because you’re letting go of the ties that bind you to the issue.

      But apologies not only right a wrong, but they are associated with boundaries that all relationships should have.

      Apologies are also about trust and intent. It’s very difficult to trust someone who can do something and who doesn’t think they need to apologise.

      I also think it depends on the apology. If someone is holding back on something that has the potential to make another person’s life better, then that apology has to be forthcoming.

      Apologies aren’t just about apologies. Apologies make the person and show others they’re capable of accepting where they go wrong.

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