8 thoughts on “A quote by Taylor Swift

  1. People don’t often understand this and seem to think you can overcome any obstacle by sheer willpower alone!

    It isn’t always that easy when you have to deal with issues that most other people don’t. Sometimes they are physical, others are mental and if you haven’t been shown how to adapt and be able to live with them, life isn’t always going to be fair!

    I wasn’t able to teach my daughter a lot of things that I wasn’t taught, but I tried to do the best I could to help her learn how to do things. Life wasn’t fair to you, since you had parents who didn’t address your issues so you had to learn a lot of things later on in your life!

    The hard part now is to not dwell in the past to be able to deal with the present and work on having a future.

    1. Thanks Randy. I think the fact that you try to help your daughter even though you were never taught is testament to your determination to change your daughter’s life, even though you couldn’t change yours.

      Life certainly isn’t fair, made harder when we have very little in the way of tools to work through some of the issues we have to deal with, particularly if they’re brought on by other people.

      All we can do is give of our best, change the lives of those close to us, whilst looking to change ours.

  2. A very true quote, but we still must fight. I have learned that most fights in life aren’t fair, but that’s just the way it is.

    Doesn’t mean to say the thing isn’t worth fighting for, just because it’s hard. After all, it’s not the size of the dog in the fight, but the size of the fight in the dog.

    1. Thank you. If more of us took the time to communicate appropriately taking other people’s thoughts and opinions into consideration, I am sure some of our fights or disagreements could be reduced.

      I love the quote you’ve used and so true. We must have stamina to see any argument through in the long hall. It’s just a shame we have to argue, never mind when the fight isn’t fair.

  3. Wow isn’t this the truth!! My biggest pet peeves are people who choose not to be insightful and choose to look through life in their own narrow perspective.

    We’re all different, we all have our own challenges and histories, we all think differently and learn differently. When my dad would tell me “you have to be cared up, because this world will eat you up and spit you out alive,” he was right.

    Another thing that gets to me is being discriminated, for having a disability and not being qualified for jobs. That is really not fair and I’m more than sure I’m not the only one that has had to deal with that.

    I believe it’s an issue that should be dealt with and addressed.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. You’ve raised a lot of valid points and couldn’t agree more, but until the world begins to see what you’re pointing out, unfairness and discrimination won’t change.

      Your father’s analogy was absolutely spot on. It’s a shame he felt he needed to point it out to you. All you can do is keep on moving forward, doing the best you can with what you’ve been given, in the hope that the world sees and changes its attitude.

      That said, there are people out there who are willing to help and are not so discriminating of people who struggle with a disability, but until everyone recognises disability in its own right, there’s nothing anyone can do.

      We have more of a voice than we used to so that’s good. We’ve moved on since I grew up, disability wasn’t even discussed when I was growing up, but still I feel we haven’t come far enough.

      Taylor Swift’s quote is spot on, but we must learn to play fair first, before anything else can change.

  4. Thank you Ilana. I do believe and agree society has come a long way than it used to be, so why should we complain?

    Yes I pray and hope it will get better. I know speaking for myself alone, if family could step up a little more on the understanding completely what its like.

    Mine just want me to do the very best and never wanted to use the word ‘disabled.’

    1. Given your disability Bonnie, you’re family did amazingly well not to discourage you or think you couldn’t do things because of your disability. I would have been happy with that.

      Although none of my siblings were encouraged, I also had my physical issues to deal with that were totally ignored, as far as discussions of what I had were concerned. Any emotional issues I had to deal with, were completely ignored. That’s the reason I was so angry all the time.

      I can’t speak for others of course, but I wouldn’t have wanted or want to be seen or classed as disabled, because it’s easy to be stereotyped and defined as a disabled person that way, because we have a disability.

      Although I have Cerebral Palsy, I am me first, my disability is secondary to who I am as a person.

      I have to say that I agree with your parents’ choice not to use the word ‘disabled.’ It sounds like you got the best of both worlds. I am happy for you.

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