A Veronica Roth quote

Something inspirational:

“Becoming fearless isn’t the point. That’s impossible. It’s learning how to control your fear, and how to be free from it.”


4 May, 2015

8 thoughts on “A Veronica Roth quote

  1. Now this is something that’s always easier said than done! Fear is a survival mechanism that has allowed us to survive as humans at the times when we weren’t bright enough to do things like save ourselves.

    If a person is actually fearless, the chances for their survival significantly declines. I tried to suppress my feelings and act like I didn’t have any, but then I felt nothing which is as good as being dead, I would think.

    I was also trying to get rid of parts of my personality that are necessary for survival. You have to have fear and anger to do the things you need to do. I’m definitely not a vulcan or an android, so the most I can do is try to learn to live as a human being!

    1. Thanks Randy. It’s so hard but I still believe it’s so important for us to recognise our feelings at any given time so that we can deal with what we have to deal with.

      When we suppress our feelings for too long, we become out of touch with our thoughts, feelings and reality and in effect would end up with very little personality and no tools for dealing with anything that comes along.

      It’s often the fear we feel that pushes us to survive when we know we have no other choice and that’s not all bad.

  2. Regardless of our personal religious beliefs, life fascinates and frightens us. We come into this life knowing little or nothing about anything; so we learn to fear life and death.

    But I think people do become fearless after being exposed to fear too long.

    1. Thanks Tim. From the minute we’re born, we learn everything we need to learn for us to live our lives. Life can be fascinating for some, frightening for others, depending on the tools we’ve been given.

      Because death is a taboo subject, some of us may fear death itself and some of us may be still fearful of how we might die. For some religion may help with that and for others religion can make us more fearful.

  3. We will always have fear for the unknown or danger. We just need to realize that fear doesn’t make us who we are.

    It’s just a physical reaction caused by our mind. The problem is when it takes over our logical thinking. It’s difficult to do so, but we need to learn how to control our thoughts so our emotions won’t have much control over our life.

    1. Thanks Maria. This is absolutely true and I agree with you.

      The difficulty we have is being able to work through the process so that we hold on to our logical thinking over the circumstances that is causing us to feel fear. Unfortunately as soon as we feel fear our logical thinking is the first thing to disappear.

  4. This quote reminded me of the saying, “feel the fear and do it anyway” and to some extent I do agree with that.

    We feel fear for good reason. It heightens our senses, makes us more alert and capable of coping with a situation in the best way possible. I used to be terrified of public speaking, which I do a lot of in my job and made all sorts of excuses to avoid it.

    One day I said to myself that if I continue not to face it, I would never do it and so forced myself to. What helped was that I told myself I knew more about the subject than my audience so I shouldn’t worry and it worked!

    I still get nervous but nothing like how I was and as the quote rightly says I am able to control my fear and this is rather than the other way around.

    1. Thanks. Yes we can talk ourselves into almost everything, but as you have rightly pointed out, when you came to rationale your thoughts on your public speaking, you found something that allowed you to go back in and at least give it a try, instead of running away from it.

      I think more of us should do what you’ve done, because without dealing with the fear we feel, we will only fear more. As you say, we must feel the fear, deal with what it is we fear and then we can move on.

      When we have got past the fear, it’s usually been something and nothing, when we’ve looked back. That’s the problem with fear, we become more earful than we need to.

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