An Amy Tan quote

Something inspirational:

“My mother believed in curses, karma, good luck, bad luck, feng shui. Her amorphous set of beliefs showed me you can pick and choose the qualities of your philosophy, based on what works for you.”


23 Feb, 2018

6 thoughts on “An Amy Tan quote

  1. Yes, it would have been helpful to have been able to pick and choose what my beliefs were, when I was a kid rather than end up being what I like a to call a force-fed Baptist.

    We were expected to play the parts of a perfect Christian family when behind closed doors it was more like the TV series ‘Shameless.’ My Father used to jokingly say that my grandmother had cursed us, blaming her for the way our lives were and I used to actually believe him, until I realized that he was the one making all the bad choices.

    Most of my life I have been living by other people’s standards and their belief systems, while ignoring my own. It would just be so very fantastic if I could live my life by my own rules and to be able to be happy for the first time in my life.

    1. Thanks Randy. Well you couldn’t as a child, but you can as the adult. It’s easy to fall into line and stay there even when our parents are no longer with us.

      But the reality is that you have a choice. You can change how you choose to live your life, just so long as you break the ties that bind. It’s something we must all do if we want to break the patterns brought about through our parents’ parenting.

      I think your last paragraph sums up your response today nicely Randy. ‘It would just be so very fantastic if I could live my life by my own rules and to be able to be happy for the first time in my life.’

      You absolutely can Randy. It’s your time now and with a few lifestyle changes you can and by changing your belief system from that of your parents to your own beliefs.

  2. If half of our beliefs are true we are in deep trouble, to put it mildly. But if it works for us that’s great, as long as it doesn’t drive us insane.

    1. Thanks Tim. Perhaps it’s depends on the belief. If our beliefs are based on lifestyle choices then personally I think it would be fine.

      And perhaps beliefs that are based on culture or religion are different and sadly can have different connotations.

  3. I think this quote is right. One size doesn’t fit all. Which is okay as long as our beliefs encompass qualities such as compassion, empathy and understanding.

    1. Thank you. Yes, but perhaps that’s the problem, it doesn’t.

      How different the world would look if all our beliefs encompassed qualities, such as ‘compassion, empathy and understanding.’

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