6 thoughts on “Children’s minds

  1. I think this is true to a point, as when things do go wrong as a child that file quickly gets over-written by one that does remember and that can last a long time.

    There can’t be many of us that aren’t affected by unhappy childhood memories.

    1. I think the majority of us are affected by unhappy childhood memories. I know I was.

      I think it’s up to parents to make sure their unhappy childhood memories don’t become the subject of their children’s memories. My unhappy childhood memories has made me stronger. They’ve also allowed me to see and make better changes in my own adult life.

      Granted that’s not easy to do, which is why we must make every effort to make things right for our children when they’re small.

  2. Yes, so true. But there are some children that worry about things because their parents are neglectful and bring stuff home and air it for the children to hear.

    It’s the children that see their parents doing drugs or whose parents argue and fight in front of them or they see the abuse or are abused and they worry about things they could do differently, so their parents won’t abuse them.

    Adults keep so much on their mind that they keep filed away; but it’s there waiting to come back and bite them. They worry about the past and the future.

    We should live in the present. What has happened has gone and what will be will be.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I believe Marianne Williamson’s quote was referring to children in general, because in general children tend not to have worries like adults do. It should be the parents’ job to make sure their children have the life that Marianne is describing in her quote.

      For the reasons you have highlighted in your response, for some children there is another side to that child’s life that the outside world may not always see and that’s totally wrong.

      It’s up to us as the parents to make sure that doesn’t happen, however our own childhoods turn out. We must make things right for our children.

  3. Yes, if a child is very lucky they have the chance to have a normal childhood without all the chaos and drama!

    I think this is what a lot of people don’t understand when it comes to having a dysfunctional childhood. We don’t have a chance to grow up and mature like others, considering we have to worry about things that a child shouldn’t have to worry about!

    It would have been great to have that luxury, but it just didn’t work out that way. I have to learn to accept it and deal with life as it is now.

    1. Thanks Randy. You’re right; it is a problem for children who are brought up in dysfunctional families.

      Generally speaking though, children who do not grow up in dysfunctional families will have a happy childhood without the trappings of the dysfunctional behaviour you talk about in your response.

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