Don’t sweat the small stuff

A passing thought:

Take control of all the things you know that you need to deal with that are within your control. For the problems that are out of your control, let them go and forget about them. This will allow you to stay focused and in control of what you can deal with. We all have the wisdom to know what we can and cannot manage and or accomplish.

Not everything in life needs to be accomplished straight away, neither do we have to accomplish them by ourselves. We can choose to ask for help if we need it.

8 Jul, 2011

12 thoughts on “Don’t sweat the small stuff

  1. This is something I know that I definitely need to work on. It makes it hard to focus on the things that I can change, when I focus on the things I can’t change!

    Hopefully this will change in the near future so I can enjoy life just a bit more.

    1. Randy you’re right, when we focus on the things we cannot change it does make it hard to concentrate on the things that we can change. Hopefully you’ll learn to change this as you go along. Thank you for posting.

  2. I get so aggravated when I can’t change something right away but it ends up resolving soon. If I just have patience which I have had to learn in the past few years.

    I know when there is something that won’t change and I tend to leave well enough alone.

    1. You’re right Lisa patience is a virtue. It’s great that you let go of the things you know you cannot change. The nature of a problem is that it usually gets sorted sooner or later.

      We should always try to cut problems down to size, so that we’re less likely to worry about what we’re trying to deal with.

  3. There are enough things to worry about without thinking of more.

    My father is like this, if there is nothing to worry about he will think of something. It is like he is not happy unless there is something to worry or complain about.

    I will never understand his thinking because I have yet to get inside his head or would I want to explore that? Scary thought.

    1. Your father sounds like a total worrier. It cannot be easy for him to relax and be at ease if he is constantly worrying about things.

      He’s not alone though, I have family members who also worry. I am sure there are many more who deal with the same thing.

  4. This post helped me realize that my “inappropriate” behavior, isn’t worth beating myself up about.

    1. Welcome to the site. I totally agree with you.

      If we learn to let go of any behavior that causes us more harm, we’ll hopefully learn to work on behavior that is deemed more acceptable.

      Life is a learning curve. Our experiences shape our lives and make us more wise about our choices. I believe that will happen for you too.

  5. This post brings to light two things that I struggle with the most.

    It’s hard for me to let small things go, even if I know that they don’t matter or the fact that you can’t change or recreate the past.

    It’s tough to ask for help when situations are hard for many people as well. This is getting easier the older I get, but I wish I could have started down that path earlier.

    1. I believe that the only person in this scenario who is important is you. You have to think about what’s important for you regardless of any one else who is involved.

      If you know that asking for help will help you move on then it’s okay to ask. You will be surprised how many people will want to help if they are your friends. Don’t be afraid to ask. True friends will help regardless of what they deal with.

      Don’t be too hard on yourself. Even though you didn’t do any of this earlier, that is completely immaterial in my opinion. What matters is what you do now. Wipe the slate clean and start afresh. You may even find yourself letting go of situations you no longer need to hold on to. Thank you for posting.

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