Our choice to forgive

Something inspirational:

“Forgiveness is above all a personal choice, a decision of the heart to go against the natural instinct to pay back evil with evil.”


21 Aug, 2013

6 thoughts on “Our choice to forgive

  1. I think I forgive people too easily. I let people run over me and then forgive them without even an apology from them. I guess I just don’t like confrontation.

    The number one person in the world that we need to learn to forgive is ourselves. We have a hard time doing that. I think people would be happier if they learned to forgive themselves. I know I would.

    We just let the past keep haunting us. But if we forgive ourselves and let the past be we would be happier.

    1. Thanks Lisa. As a child I had that done to me most or all of the time so I know how you feel.

      We don’t always have to use confrontation as a means of communication, but it is important to say what we feel. I do think it’s harder to do that with some people, more than others particularly when they’re always taking offence.

      We tend to blame ourselves for lots of things that we’re not always responsible for and have a hard time forgiving ourselves for those, but if someone chooses to make amends and tries to put things right with us then we should be able to forgive.

  2. I do agree with this. Forgiving people is easy if you have the right frame of mind to do it, but that is not to say the action will be forgotten.

    This is the hardest part and not always possible.

    1. Actions are so hard to forget and doesn’t always seem possible to forget, you’re right to think that way.

      Sometimes time allows us to heal so that we’re able to move forward with our thinking and our lives. I also think it depends on the action. Some actions are easier to forgive than others.

  3. I think forgiving people depends on the severity of their actions and whether they have atoned for their actions.

    Ideally, forgiving people would be the right thing to do, but it takes time to heal an opened wound.

    1. Thanks Tim. I think you’re right, but it’s not something people will always do. As a nation we’re generally not good at forgiving.

      I know from my own experiences and having worked through trauma myself, there’s always a bigger picture to their behaviour. When we can understand and see the bigger picture on those experiences it is easier to stand back and forgive because we understand.

      The universe also plays it’s part. I also believe being able to forgive makes us a more enlightened human being and makes the other person look bad.

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