To learn independence

Something inspirational:

“One of the most important of life’s lessons is to learn independence, to understand freedom. This means independence from attachments, from results, from opinions, and from expectations. Breaking attachments leads to freedom, but breaking attachments does not mean abandoning a loving and meaningful relationship, a relationship that nourishes your soul. It means ending dependency on any person or thing. Love is never a dependency.”

BRIAN L WEISS, Messages from the Masters

5 Oct, 2013

6 thoughts on “To learn independence

  1. So true. I agree with this. Having let go of attachments does mean freedom.

    Freedom to make our own decisions and learn to grow up and become independent. That’s where we are with our older children. They are out on their own, learning to be independent.

    Our oldest is doing well. The youngest of our daughters is trying but she still has attachment issues.

    1. I too completely agree with this quote. It’s the opposite of how my life has been. I have had to work at breaking the cycle.

      As you have pointed out Lisa there are certain issues that our children have to deal with that can cause them to have attachment issues to us and they may not always get things right. It’s also common for parents to worry and in doing so they’ll unconsciously hold their children back emotionally.

      Other parents may have a hard time letting go emotionally (helicopter parenting) of their children emotionally and that can cause attachment issues for the child. Everyone should be given the opportunity to learn independence, regardless of our concerns for them.

  2. I especially like the part about being independent from results, opinions, and expectations.

    Being free from these attachments doesn’t relieve me of my responsibilities, but it does lift the weight of unnecessary burden.

    1. Thanks Tim. I like your response. I know that when I learned independence, I certainly became more aware of my own choices, and being aware helped me make better decisions.

      You’re right, we will always have responsibility of course that will never change, but it does mean we will lift the weight of unnecessary burden, particularly when we’re not having to work through something we perhaps got wrong.

  3. This is a great quote and we can all learn something from it that we can apply to our daily relationships.

    Like Tim I think the second sentence is very powerful indeed.

    1. I also agree with this quote in the way you suggest. I love Tim’s choice of words. They are not only powerful and will resonate with many, but are also very true.

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