A common-sense approach

A common-sense approach to what we may have to deal with makes common sense. It’s the approach we take, it’s the standing back; it’s the voice in our head that tells us to listen. By listening to our thoughts, we do what makes common sense, for us to sort one or all of our problems out.

Life has a way of throwing problems at us, there’s no getting away from that, but we must learn to fix what we can, even if those problems aren’t initially ours. There’s no point in us continuing to blame others for things we end up having to deal with. When we can come to accept that, we can then work on understanding the reasoning behind the problem.

Do what makes sense, common sense. Ninety percent of what we deal with is common sense. When we apply common sense to any problem, we will learn how to solve those problems. What we do about our problems and how we inspire ourselves to sort out our problems will always make a difference to the final-outcome.

Of course, in certain cases the cause of our problems aren’t always where the symptoms show up, but if we know how to fix the symptom, we fix the problem and that’s where common-sense comes in. If we are right in our assumptions, the problems we’re dealing with will always get fixed. It’s often our inability to understand the initial problem and how to fix it that causes problems to come back.

The little voice in our head allows us to fix our problems.  I personally don’t get dressed without mine.


28 Jan, 2016

10 thoughts on “A common-sense approach

  1. Common sense isn’t something that I have a lot of experience with, but it does come in handy when you’re trying to live, rather than just survive!

    My parents never really had any of it, considering how our childhoods went. They only seemed concerned about what they could get out of life and how much they could piss the other one off. It was a game they played very poorly, since most parents who have any small amount of common sense, wouldn’t have put their children through what we went through. It’s why I get so annoyed when people say things like, ‘they did the best they could with what they had!’ when that is such a load of rubbish.

    This being said, I can’t blame them for all the choices I have made in my life. There were many times when I knew better, but made choices based on what would make life easier for other people, versus doing what was right for me.

    I wasn’t ever really allowed to have my own life and make my own choices without being severely punished for trying to do so. The episode of Criminal Minds from last night, was a prime example of how my mother treated me and how I could have ended up, if I had allowed her to continue controlling my life. People usually don’t believe me when I talk about what I went through, but I have siblings who were there and have their own demons to deal with from our childhoods.

    Common sense at this time in my life, would dictate, I imagine that I should focus on taking care of my self for once, versus taking care of everyone else and their problems! It’s a foreign concept to me at times, but it’s how people do more than just survive and actually live their lives. I can’t continue dwelling on what was, or worry so much about what will be, so I have to learn how to stay focused on what is today.

    It is actually 2016 and I am actually 47, although emotionally I feel like I’m still 12 years old, when I started drinking! They say you stop growing when you do and I have come to strongly believe in that idea.

    I just have to figure out what I want to be when I grow up and use common sense to help me reach that goal!

    1. Thanks Randy. The nature of our childhood determines how we are as adults. I can understand you saying you’re 47, but still feel like you’re 12 years old!

      The control your parents had over you, won’t have helped you become independent or allow you to mature emotionally. Maturity comes from emotional growth, which you didn’t have.

      That said, there comes a time in our lives, when it’s up to us to begin to evaluate our lives, where we are and how we choose to get on. It’s not easy, I have also struggled, but when we bring common sense into the equation and continue to take that approach, I believe we begin to grow and mature.

      Your last paragraph resonates with me Randy. It’s not only up to us to figure out what we want to be when we grow up, but where we want to be and with whom.

      It’s up to us to make our lives happen, however badly we start out. It’s time to think about yourself. I believe you can achieve your goal. I’m routing for you.

  2. Sometimes I have pretty good common sense other times I wonder about how brain dead I really am lol. Perhaps it’s the brain damage means I’ve never been the one to think on my toes.

    Being diagnosed with brain damage itself was a closure for me and made a ton of sense with difficulty in school and communicating with others. I thank God my children are SO smart!!

    1. You’re both smart and articulate Bonnie. No doubt in my mind. When you respond to some of my blogs, the first thing I recognise is how articulate and smart you really are. Your explanations are spot on.

      Just because we have brain damage doesn’t make us not smart. You had such a positive upbringing. Our environment I would say accounts for 50% of that.

      Without common sense we wouldn’t be able to articulate our thoughts at all, you can do that. Sometimes we just need the practice and that comes through time and maturity of course.

  3. I manage to make it through most days without going through a car wash with my windows rolled down. Still, there’s no denying my wayward ways and my propensity to make common mistakes.

    But common sense is not as practical or common as we think. It’s our common practice to sacrifice our common sense for the standards of our society.

    1. Thanks Tim. We wouldn’t be human without our wayward ways… but I feel we learn more through our mistakes and that’s not altogether bad.

      I think the world would be best placed if more of us were to use our common sense. Unfortunately, our need to fit into society often comes first and common sense takes second place.

  4. Thank you Ilana. You know how to make others’ (me) feel so much better, especially when in doubt.

    Everyone weather they have disabilities or not are really good at some things and have difficulty in others. Albert Einstein is an example. He was a genius, but never learned how to tie his own shoes!

    1. You’re welcome. Thanks Bonnie! As Albert Einstein has shown, it goes to show that just because we struggle in one area of our lives, doesn’t mean we’re not capable in another.

      It’s a case of honing in on the things we think we can do. Unfortunately for some of us, we either spend our lives believing we can’t, or others believe we can’t and then fail to support us. I believe with the right approach anyone can.

  5. Thank you; you’re very much correct! Everyone needs support in one way or another. Especially those that struggle a little more I believe, or like John Lennon says, “every child is an artist, until they’re told they aren’t.”

    1. Thanks Bonnie. Great analogy! Yes every child is an artist and regardless of whether they’re told they’re not. Just because someone says we’re not doesn’t mean we’re not. It’s their opinion and how many times has other people been proved wrong.

      I’m not sure I would comment or judge on other people’s talent. Our job, a family’s job, society’s job is to inspire people to do better than they think they can do themselves, not bring them down.

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