A life without an ego

We know the ego is responsible for leading our reaction or response for other people’s actions directed towards us and us towards others. But understanding and having knowledge of what the ego is and how it leads us to act, allows us to facilitate, communicate and change our actions in more positive and appropriate ways.

To understand the ego and how the ego operates is to understand ourselves better. The ego helps us distinguish what is occurring in our own mind from what is occurring in the external world. It is perhaps the single most important function, because negotiating with the outside world requires us to perceive and understand our world around us.

That’s fine to a point. We can grow through the ego both mentally and physically, because the ego is there to initially help us understand and make sense of the world, but we mustn’t be completely reliant on the ego because eventually it will start to work against us. The ego will work against us when we fail to pay attention to ourselves and instead will continue to answer to our ego.

In the longer term it’s important we let go of the ego and learn to rely on ourselves instead. That there is a life beyond the ego. It’s only when we venture away overcoming the inherent resistance to separate ourselves from the ego that we recognise there we have a life beyond the ego. Sadly, humanity struggles with trying to live and think we can’t live without an ego. That’s not true because we can happily survive without it.

A life away from the ego is not to be feared, but to be embraced. Working without our ego allows us to see and understand that we can show being grateful and thankful through our own free will, through the universe. The universe doesn’t look for appreciation, acknowledgment and compliments and neither should we.

It’s selfless acts that innately come from us to support everyone and everything that exists around us through empathy, compassion, patience, understanding and tolerance. When we let go of the ego, we go beyond the ego’s perceptions and start embracing our own.

Freeing ourselves from our ego will free us from aversion, dislikes, repugnance, antipathy and opposition that is usually the source of our suffering, unhappiness and restlessness, which all come from the ego. It’s time to let go.


17 Feb, 2018

4 thoughts on “A life without an ego

  1. Well that does make a lot of sense, seeing as I tend to be what they call in AA ‘an egomaniac with an inferiority complex.’

    One minute I can feel like the master of the universe and next I feel lower than whale crap. People see me as a normal person on the outside, where I’m confident and self assured, whereas on the inside, I’m like a young child afraid of his own shadow.

    They only see what I allow them to see, since I grew up in a world where you had to; or else get attacked by all of the monsters out there who prey on the weak and defenseless.

    I can play that part oh so well, but inside I don’t have any clue as to who I really am, which is what I need to figure out. The most I want is to just be a decent human being and to not be totally forgotten after I’m gone.

    1. Randy, you’re decent, but it doesn’t matter what other people think as long as we know we’re decent. We tend to play to other people’s tune and forget that we need to play to our own.

      Given your upbringing it’s not surprising you lost sight of ‘who you are.’ It’s easy to feel one way inside and to the world we seem different again, but I believe with work on yourself you can be who you’re supposed to be.

      As a child growing up internalising everything helped me understand who I was, but I’ve seen first hand how the ego works and it really doesn’t sit pretty.

      I would rather have less friends without an ego, than have numerous friends with an ego, just so I get to fit in. I would rather not have to fit in.

      The reality of course is that we must fit into our own lives. We have to get to know us before we get to know anyone else.

  2. There is no room for an ego in any relationship. I remember being asked if I had an ego in a job interview once.

    The reason they asked was because the Managing Director had an ego as big as a planet and there wasn’t any room for another. His ego ultimately was his downfall.

    It’s a sign of self-centred superiority to which I hold no weight and I agree, anyone can lose the ego if they wanted to. But I doubt anyone with an ego would agree to having one in the first place.

    1. Thank you. Yes, where you say, ‘his ego ultimately was his downfall,’ that is exactly what happens when we live by our ego.

      Sadly, we tend to lose our own identity and the ability to think things for ourselves. We need more empathy, tolerance, patience and understanding.

      I’m just wondering what happened to the good old fashioned values that brought people together.

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