There are those who go out of their way to blame their parents or siblings for how their lives turn out. Others may not intentionally set out to blame, but may still be affected by their childhood.
Regardless of our upbringing, perhaps there’s little point in harbouring resentment, because we don’t get to change our upbringing Wallowing in our own misery, will only serve to make us more miserable, unless we choose to say something, which we are absolutely entitled to do.
As the adult we’re responsible for ourselves. Of course that never takes away what the other person has done, so perhaps that’s something we must think about settling on and where we think we’re not affected by our experiences in childhood we are, although we may sometimes fail to identify what the issues are.
Unless the issues are obvious and they stand out, it’s not always easy to equate why we may feel so unhappy. There could be a multitude of things. But we do need to work things out if we are to change our outward thinking so that issues from our childhood, don’t linger into our adult lives.
The way I see it is that we cannot turn back the clock, but we can control how we choose to see and deal with those issues or experiences. We are fully in control of how we see and deal with those.