A New Year & change

We say we’re going to change and yet we don’t. We say things are going to be different, but invariably they never are.

As we embark on a new year, nothing really ever changes. Although we don’t always equate that in the present, it’s only when we look back that we see how little has changed. We always start with the best of intentions for a New Year.

Make 2016 your year for inward change, to outwardly do the things you say you’re going to do and as you do, watch your confidence grow and see how much better you feel. Change isn’t something that happens overnight, it’s an on-going process that requires steely determination. It’s an inward process that can take years of honing.

It’s not something other people will often see, equate or even understand, but we know it’s there. It’s an understanding that transforms us into better people, getting the best out of our lives.

2 Jan, 2016

4 thoughts on “A New Year & change

  1. This is the year to turn down the volume in my life, relax and filter the noise. It’s the year to conduct my affairs with less negativity and a lot more confidence. I’ll try to pick up a few pieces and put them back together again.

    I want to make it as sunny as possible until my dreams come to fruition and then I’ll dream all over again.

  2. “Nothing changes if nothing changes!” One of the many expressions you hear in the halls of AA which more people should pay attention to.

    People always talk about changing things, but rarely ever do (myself included!) ‘Do or do not, there is no try’ is another one that comes to mind that one of my sponsors mentioned a long time ago, but don’t remember seeing in the movie.

    In the world I grew up in, the more things changed, the more they stayed the same. It was like living in groundhog day where the same day kept repeating itself over and over, but there wasn’t any way to make things change!

    I have a very strong feeling that 2016 is going to be a year for a lot of very unpleasant changes. I have choices to make that I have never liked making, but for the sake of my sanity, I may have to!

    It’s exhausting dealing with someone who is always expecting you to change but never works very hard on changing themselves. I find it to be very hypocritical and condescending when people treat me this way! I was forced to put up with this most of my childhood so it wasn’t any surprise that I kept tolerating it as an adult.

    My life isn’t over yet, so I do have to work on changing things while I still have a mind to work with, seeing as dementia runs in both sides of my family.

    Time is short!

    1. Thanks Randy. I know how hard it is to change, but change is possible through our determination to want change and 2016 is a good place for all of us to start.

      I often wished that things were different, so those I could rely on those close to me and what they needed to change, so that my life could have been different, but soon came to realise the only one that could change things was me.

      It’s not to say that others don’t need to change. I believe we all have changes that we need to make and should, but those who don’t change usually spend their lifetime looking at others who they feel should change, without addressing or making changes for themselves.

      In your case, the person you want to change has to recognise that in him or herself before it will happen and that is hard for you, but you must change for yourself without expecting that other person to change.

      I believe Dementia may be hereditary, but I also believe being pro-active and following a healthy lifestyle is a help to avoid going down the same path as our parents.

      I feel it would be like waiting in the wings for it to happen, knowing our parents have got it and doing nothing to try to stop it from happening. We must be proactive.

      If we at least try to live a better life, look at our lifestyle, our diet and try to at least do things better than our parents did, we’ve got a head start.

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