I can see how without actively thinking about our lives, we may end up copying the very people we should actively be seeking to distance ourselves from.
Personally, I’ve never understood those who choose to copy others, particularly when those they’re copying are less than squeaky clean. Perhaps we must give of our best without thinking about or choosing to copy other people.
Although we’re often conditioned to think a certain way, we’re individual and therefore must rely on our conscious thinking instead of relying on our unconscious conditioning that’s been interfered with over the years.
Perhaps copying someone is all about ego. We tend to be attracted to and notice the ego of someone, more than we do the person, but it’s the person we’re supposed to have the relationship with. And perhaps it’s also about admiration on our part.
The ego can never work long-term. Therefore, if we unconsciously choose not to admire, consciously we will stop admiring. Sadly, when we choose to copy, we’re telling others we have a problem with ourselves.