Being a parent isn’t an easy job, even with good intentions. In some respects, it’s the nature of what parenting is. Loving parents will make decisions, particularly around discipline and what they think is best for their children.
But loving acts by a parent in the interest of their children may not appear or feel loving by their children. Children hate being disciplined and may not agree with their parent’s decision, but just because children don’t like their parents’ discipline or decisions, doesn’t define their acts as wrong or unloving.
In the early years, children won’t always know what they need, they know what they want. All children need to understand why a decision was taken. The majority of parents will fit this description.
But we must all assume good intentions. Extended families must work the same way. Assuming the best means everyone is more likely to work together, rather than want to go in and judge and form opinions.
Most parents will support their children and act in their children’s best interests. Parents with good intentions and who care, will always do what they can to make sure their good intentions are received.
Along the way we may have to avoid a few wrong turns, endure problems, but we must keep moving forward. But it is important children think about looking at the whole, rather than piece by piece, because looking at the whole shows the bigger picture.
Children may not always agree with how their parents’ discipline. It is only when they go on to have their own children that they will fully understand.