Perhaps we need to find where we want to be in the world and how we want people to see us and perhaps we have to lead ourselves through the most difficult of circumstances for us to find our sense of self.
As a child, I had no sense of self, it’s something I’ve had to work on continuously throughout my adult life. Our sense of self includes behaviors and associations that we consider the most important about ourselves. Of course, as our life moves on, other people’s comments and attitudes can wear down this natural sense of self.
With a sense of self, we’re more confident, self-assured and therefore more likely to understand how we see ourselves, what we want for ourselves and how we see others. All of those things will play out in the way we handle things. I would say a sense of self is critical for just about everything.
Without it, we will never make sense of anything that happens to us, but with it we will learn more about ourselves and of our lives. It’s how we function. Our sense of self is our identity, it’s who we are.