Ability & education

I remember a conversation that took place years ago with a relative who thought that being born to uneducated parents meant their children would also go on to be uneducated.

Whilst I agree unless parent puts a value on their child’s abilities and education there will always be less scope for that child to succeed, there are also other reasons why children fail in school.

Due to my own difficulties and a lack of encouragement from those looking after my welfare, including teaching staff, I still knew how important it was for children to get an education. It’s important for children to be encouraged emotionally, because emotional stability encourages spiritual growth, if they are to do and give of their best in school, university and life in general.

Because children in school have differing abilities, it stands to reason that some children will need more support than others, but with the right support and commitment from home and school, there is no reason why children cannot go on to succeed, even if it’s not always in a classroom situation.

I don’t believe parents always have to be educated to recognise they need to educate their children, but agree it helps. Whether school is something a child struggles with, or something they find easy, as adults it’s our job to give of our best in terms of support, in the hope that children will go on to become successful in their own right.

We cannot afford to put a price on a child’s abilities or their education. Parents must be open to both. After all, it’s their children’s meal ticket to a better, successful and more prosperous life.

12 Sep, 2016

4 thoughts on “Ability & education

  1. Education in so many senses of the word, wasn’t exactly a high priority in my parent’s world.

    We were pretty much left to fend for ourselves, so most of the time we had to learn a lot of things are on own. Street smarts became much more important than book smarts.

    Most of what I learned growing up was done on my own, by doing a lot of reading, which was also an escape from the insanity of my home life. The best way to describe my parents is that they were both very ‘simple’ but far from stupid.

    They were both very good at manipulating people into getting them to do what they wanted them to do. I keep thinking that my Dad would have been a fantastic used car salesman if he had put his mind to it.

    My abilities, however, were overshadowed and crushed by so many years of being told how to think, act and feel. My Mom should have worked for the CIA with how good she was at brainwashing.

    I was far from stupid and had pretty much a photographic memory, so who knows what I could have become if I had really been encouraged and supported in the right way as a child.

    Most parents want the best for their children, no matter what that may be, but mine were only concerned with their own needs. The most they ever taught us, was how to use and manipulate people into feeling sorry for you, so you could get what you wanted from them. It’s a great survival tool, but not very conducive to maintaining healthy relationships!

    Needless to say, things didn’t turn out very well in my life, since I didn’t know how to defeat my programming,at least on my own! I had to have a lot of help from others who knew what it was like growing up that way.

    It also meant having to ask for help, which was highly discouraged as a child, since we wouldn’t want people to know what was really going on at home. The saddest part was that they could never seem to comprehend what they had done and seemed to think we would just be okay.

    Maybe if I had gotten a higher education and had become a doctor, things would have been okay. This obviously never happened, so I have struggled most of my life just to survive, but at this point, I would really like a chance to live for the first time!

    1. Thanks Randy. Gotcha! You’ve summed up your response nicely Randy, by your understanding of your life. This isn’t your issue to carry, but that of your parents. I know how you feel carrying guilt. I believe we’re all capable, we just have to be able to apply ourselves.

      I remember being told by one of my therapists that I needed to go back into study, to try to ditch the guilt, but didn’t feel emotionally ready or confident enough to take the plunge at that point, so I didn’t.

      But I do believe that in order to get rid of the guilt, we have to physically move on and change the exact issue. I understand your struggles, because your struggles with your education were mine too.

      It got to the point where guilt was beginning to consume my every waking thought. It was time to do something about it. Sometimes it’s what we need to do, so we give ourselves ‘a chance to live our lives,’ as you so eloquently put it.

  2. Education should give us an adequate sense of who we are, but it doesn’t. You can still go down a dead-end street and have life walk out on you.

    We need an education that helps us find a path towards self-healing and economic empowerment; we have the ability to straddle both sides of that fence.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, I agree. A sense of self is the most important thing we can achieve. Personally, I tend to compare school to taking a driving test. We learn to pass an exam.

      We need to be encouraged to function independently in school, in order to create that sense of self you talk about. We need to be able to apply our own thinking to what we’re learning, so that we come out with our own understanding.

      Those things will create a sense of self and spiritual growth, which is what we need just to be able to function outside the school environment.

      Although we do function outside the school environment, I’m not sure how may of us do that well.

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