How many of us struggle because we fail to make decisions, or we rely on other people’s judgment? It would be good if we could make, even accept our own choices.
Once we learn how to make choices, we’re likely to respond in appropriate ways so that we initially get to make our choices. It’s a confidence thing, but as adults we should be making our own choices and when we do, we need to be happy with the choices we make.
Judgments are made based on our choices, but our judgments can sometimes interfere with what then becomes our reality, usually because the choices we’ve made aren’t choices we’re happy with. We need to be accepting of both our choices and judgments. It’s fine to accept other people’s choices, so long as their choices comply with our wants and needs.
Possible outcome of choices
When we’re in a position where we don’t accept our own choices, or cannot decide, we will fail to make any decisions. We should always look at the possible outcome on the choices we need to make. That way we’ll broaden our thinking to include all the negative possibilities as well.
Once we’ve taken everything into consideration and ruled things out, we’re more likely to find direction and clarity, which will enable us to start making our own choices. I believe that when we’re not happy with the choices we’ve made, we’re more likely to want to change those choices.
I also believe that making a choice on what we’re not interested in or don’t want, is often easier than making a choice on what we do want. We tend to worry about making the right choice, so we put off making a final decision on our choice, but if we’re looking to make a choice and we’re thinking about it, then that is the right choice.
Either way, we must take away the stress, eliminate what we think can’t work having weighed up the pros and cons and allow ourselves to finally make a choice.