Acceptance of choices

How many of us struggle because we don’t have the confidence to make a choice, we rely on another person’s opinion, or we ask that person first?

Once we have the confidence to make a choice, we’re likely to respond in ways that will improve our ability to make our choice. It’s a confidence thing, but as adults we need to be happy with the choices we make and be settled on those.

It’s fine to accept another person’s choice, as long as their choice accords with our wants and needs. Once we’ve taken everything into consideration and ruled some things out, we’re more likely to find direction and clarity.

I believe that making a choice on something we’re not necessarily interested in or don’t want is easier. We tend to worry more about making the right choice about something we care about or want in case it doesn’t work out.

We should try weighing up the pros and cons, then think about whether it feels right. That way we’re more likely to feel comfortable with our choices.


3 Aug, 2011

12 thoughts on “Acceptance of choices

  1. This is very appropriate timing, as I need to learn to be able to live with the choices I make.

    Thanks for sharing this post, it is a very good one!

  2. You make me realize I did make choices, even at the age I was. And I continue to choose how I view and deal with things, especially the memories.

    1. Jason I’m not sure at your age you will have made consenting choices.

      I do agree with you that now as the adult you will be able to choose how you view and deal with things, pertaining to your childhood memories. Time to re-write your own book.

  3. I love this particular topic also. I believe that I struggle with making my own choices due to self doubt I may experience during times I struggle with feeling sad; but when I’m feeling good I find that I have little experience in making my own choices and it’s almost natural to ask others to help in making choices.

    In this way, I avoid having to rely on myself, which I fear, making my own choices. I know that I need to learn to rely and trust myself more. I need to accept the choices that I make. I like your advice on it’s most likely easier to make choices based on what we don’t want rather than what we do.

    I will use that knowledge and hold on to it in the future to help guide me to make choices easier! Thanks Ilana! 🙂

    1. I used to do exactly what you do Katie. My choices weren’t my choices, my choices were based on what other people wanted and expected me to do; partly because I had no self-confidence or self-esteem and partly because I was expected to live my life like that.

      I think that once you learn to take control and you learn that it’s okay to make your own choices, you will start. The first time is hard, but just remember the choice you make will be right for you, because it’s your choice.

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