Accepting our limitations

We all have limitations, but not all of us will accept we have them. When we can come to accept our limitations (the areas that do not come naturally to us) we will learn to let go of our limitations and will begin to find and concentrate on our strengths instead.

In letting go of who we think we need to be, we allow ourselves to embrace who we truly are. When we can begin to accept, and understand our limitations without seeing those limitations as a sign of defeat, we will see our limitations as a sign of courage instead.

We will also have the courage to recognise and let go of the things we know aren’t for us so that we concentrate on the things that we know are. When we can’t do something, it doesn’t mean we’ve failed, it just means we’ve found another way to do it better.

19 Apr, 2015

6 thoughts on “Accepting our limitations

  1. Yes, accepting them is one of the hardest things to do! People don’t often accept the either, because nothing shows externally like a visible deformity.

    I fought this for a long time as I didn’t want to be anything like my parents but turned out to be just like both of them. They created a lot of the limitations in my mind, by breaking my spirit so I would do their bidding. The worst part for me has been dealing with the decisions I made because I had so much guilt, shame and remorse!

    No, I’m not blaming my parents for everything, just for the fact that they were very poor role models and did little to teach me how to do normal things. Most people my age have owned homes or planned for retirement which I haven’t done because I don’t know how.

    It’s kind of embarrassing at times because people think I’m stupid, when I don’t know how to do certain things. It has taken me a long time to be OK with admitting this fact and then being able to ask for help. It comes down to the fact that I do have to accept that I have limitations. I’m not very happy about it, but it was the hand I was dealt.

    I have watched my own daughter downright refuse to accept her limitations so that she could get the help she needs. I can so understand she just wants to be normal, but that wasn’t the hand she was dealt,either. She has shut me out of her life because I was only trying to help, but she took it as us wanting to run her life.

    I just thing it’s a shame because she is missing out on so much in her life! I have done the most I can do at this point, by just telling her that I love her and will be available if she decides she wants my help.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes telling your daughter you love her and that you will be there fore her is all you can do. Perhaps when her circumstances change again, that will happen. I hope so.

      Don’t worry about the fact that you have limitations, we all do. It’s not just something you will have and others won’t. Whether we’re born with a disability or not, we will always have limitations in our lifetime, things that we’re better at than other things, but living with any disability like your daughter does, will bring its own limitations unfortunately.

      I think the more we come to learn and accept that we have our limitations, the more strength we can draw from the things we know we are actually good at, but the initial reason for how we turn out, must subside first.

  2. If I find I can’t do something, or no longer can do something, I accept it and move on. There is no use in dwelling on the negative aspects of things, it will get us no where except make us more stressed.

    Going beyond our limitations can make us ill. That’s why I’ve just recently discovered I can’t do it all; slowing down and enjoying life is more important, plus putting things in God’s hands has helped me a lot also.

    I don’t worry as much and that was one of my biggest downfalls. Things will turn out the way they are supposed to.

    1. Yes things usually turn out how they are supposed to turn out. I think if more of us understood that concept, we would stress and worry less.

      I’m pleased you’ve come to that conclusion yourself. I believe that if we help ourselves first, God will always play his part in sending our us positivity to be able to handle what life throws at us.

  3. Living with CP I have come to somewhat accept my physical limitations. I say somewhat because there is always my stubborn side that doesn’t want to be defeated by them.

    In most cases, I eventually realize that I am better off asking for assistance. I might not like it, but I have to remind myself that everyone needs help once in a while and that despite my physical limitations, I am not doing that bad.

    I am simply doing my best with the life I have been dealt.

    1. I think you’re absolutely right in what you say Maria. Given the fact that CP will always cause us to have our physical limitations, we do our best with the life we’ve been dealt.

      I don’t think you’re being stubborn. There’s a side to all of us who deal with physical limitations that wish our lives were different and won’t be defeated. I have had that too.

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