Acknowledging emotional pain

To heal emotional pain, we need to first acknowledge we have it, but where that may seem obvious some of us are not always aware of what that pain is, whilst others are in denial they have any. That what they feel has nothing to do with them, their past, or life experiences.

That isn’t true of course. We all will have varying degrees of emotional pain or trauma in our energy field. Some of us might be aware of what those are, but others may not know, primarily because they don’t turn their attention to it.

Unfortunately, when we fail to turn our attention to any type of emotional pain we will always end up in emotional conflict, which can be the difference between becoming ill and staying well. It’s important we bring our emotions into our conscious thoughts, so that we can deal with them, but to do that we must first acknowledge we have them and that’s never easy.

We learn from a very early age how we’re expected to conform, but unless we’re encouraged to talk about things, a lot of what we feel gets buried. Harbouring bad experiences will always come to the surface at some other point in our lives.

I’m not sure how much we consciously think about our past or those experiences, but any emotion that isn’t dealt with can potentially turn into something more as the days, months and years pass by. I believe we must do something about our displaced issues.

It’s absolutely a necessity and is the difference between us feeling confident and not so confident about ourselves in our lives. In my next blog on this topic, I will talk about how our emotions actually work.


17 Jul, 2016

4 thoughts on “Acknowledging emotional pain

  1. I’ll be the first to admit my emotional pain exists, but it’s painful going over the details in my mind. It’s like being punished for breathing and I don’t want to be mad at the world forever.

    So I guess you can say I have deep-seated tension, but I’m exhaling until a few memories fade and replaced by better ones.

    1. Thanks Tim. It’s a breath of fresh air to hear you talking about emotional pain in this way. From my own experience, it often depends on the environment we grow up in as to whether we will admit to struggling emotionally.

      I am a firm believer that bad memories don’t fade, we often have to help them along their way. It’s our perceptions on those bad memories that change the way we see our experiences; and that’s what we must keep working on.

      Through years of reflection and internal dialogue I learned how to deal with my own trauma. If left a lot of what we feel is becomes deep routed, but the first step to healing is to acknowledge and own what we feel.

      Even if our experiences aren’t brought about by us, I believe it’s important to stop the blame, own what we feel and then we can work through the healing process.

  2. It’s funny because I was just commenting on a post about PTSD and part of that was burying any emotional pain, rather than feeling it at the time.

    I have a lifetime of doing that so there is a volcano there ready to explode at any time; if I don’t deal with it! It also mentioned a woman’s surprise that she had the symptoms of PTSD before she was even 10, which I can identify with. I had been through things by that age that would cause most adults to have a nervous breakdown.

    There are still times I don’t even believe it happened myself, but I have siblings who can verify that it actually did. My parents were pretty oblivious to what was going on around them; so they didn’t do much to change things.

    It’s one of the many reasons I started drinking so young, which only made things worse. I was acting out in ways that I hate to even think about, so I tried to distance myself from all that emotional pain, which they actually call dissociation. The biggest problem with that is then you feel nothing at all, good or bad, which may help you to survive, but doesn’t allow you to really live.

    Even now I don’t want to deal with all of that emotional pain buried inside, but I know I will have to so that I can finally move on. People seem to have the delusion that it’s something you can just get over, which isn’t the case. I’m pretty sure if it really was that easy, I would have done so a long time ago!

    I just find myself feeling a great deal of apprehension now, contemplating making the choice to acknowledge my emotional pain. If it was up to me, I would avoid it at all costs, but that’s how people end up in the nursing homes suffering over the things they wish they had done when they had the chance.

    The reality is that I may end up with dementia and not really know what’s going on, but with my luck, I’ll be coherent until the very end. I just want to be able to be comfortable in my own skin for a change, since it has been such a long time since I did.

    I have hated myself for so long because of mistakes I made and things I did, but I can’t change the past as much as I wish I could. I’ll just have to do whatever it is I need to do, to be able to move on!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, burying any kind of pain doesn’t help us in the longer term deal with and focus on what’s eating away at us. We have a tendency to want to bury what’s difficult including or emotions, but not dealing with our emotions only serves to create more emotional strife.

      You’re a good guy caught up in issues; which weren’t yours. I’m not sure any of us can be sure how life will play out, but acknowledgement of anything is the first step to a more peaceful and positive life. We need that if we’re going to keep illness away. I hope you feel better soon Randy.

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