Anger & irritability

We bleat things out first without any joined-up thinking, but how many of us really know those are critical undertones and that they’re often brought about through anger and irritability?

But where undertones are one of dishonesty, we should perhaps worry. Perhaps those handing out the dishonest undertones should think about why they’ve chosen that path. Critical undertones usually imply there’s something lurking, something past that we’ve experienced, but not yet resolved. Cumulatively, experiences add up.

Sadly, being angry and irritable often relate to experiences we’re not consciously aware even exists, but it’s plausible that disorders such as anxiety and depression, exist through being angry and irritable all the time. It is not that we actively choose to be angry and irritable, but an undertone that isn’t empathetic, patient or tolerant means we’re not coping with certain aspects of our lives.

Disorders emerge through anger and irritability. Therefore, it’s important than when part of us lose the ability to rationale, or we become irritated at certain issues that we’re struggling with, we stand back and think about where we can make certain changes.

It is inevitable that we will all have stress and may struggle from time to time. What matters is how we deal with our stress. It’s also a fact that our emotions and outward behaviour will always belie our unconscious thinking.

Anger, irritability and hostility are both signs we’re struggling with issues not yet dealt with.


28 Feb, 2018

6 thoughts on “Anger & irritability

  1. Yes, a big part of my issues stem from my subconsciously fighting to suppress any negative emotions that I have.

    I grew up in a world where my feelings didn’t matter and I wasn’t exactly allowed to express myself, so it’s no wonder they eventually came out sideways, as I call it.

    I did become very angry and irritable and acted out in very inappropriate ways that would have caused most parents to consider getting me help, but my parents never did.

    Certain events had come to pass that caused me to attempt to completely cut off my connection with any negative emotions, but it meant not feeling the positive ones, either.

    Now it’s a matter of learning how to deal with all aspects of my personality that are actually normal, no matter what the voices in my head are trying to tell me.

    They’re not alive anymore so I can live my own life the way I want to live, without having to live like a Vulcan anymore.

    1. Thanks Randy. I’m pleased the voices in your head have gone. I believe though that the negative emotions we suppress so that we can ‘function normally’ need to be dealt with.

      The irony is that we can never function normally without dealing with suppressed emotions. Suppressed emotions will eventually come back if they’re not dealt with and it is those emotions that create friction between our subconscious and conscious thoughts.

      It is the friction that causes us to be angry and irritable. As well as us dealing with those emotions, we also need to deal with the issues behind our emotions, often brought about through parents’ parenting issues.

  2. I am disturbed about a few things, but I think I’ve separated myself from anger and irritability to an extent. Those are very lethal compounds if gone unchecked.

    Besides, I can’t afford to lose my mind, even though it’s fairly obvious that it’s possible.

    1. Thanks Tim. I think you have every right to be disturbed about a few things and that’s okay.

      Although the word itself forms connotations in our mind, it can actually help us understand the bigger picture if we take time to work it through.

      Does anyone ever go through life without being disturbed? A conversation can leave us disturbed. Listening to a person’s graphic story can leave us disturbed. A terrifying experience can leave us disturbed.

      Pretty normal stuff, but it’s important we choose not to live there, because that’s when we can get ill.

  3. The article seems interesting as its a fact that everyone of us gets angry or irritated when things don’t go the way we want.

    But, I guess sometimes more than being an emotion or feeling shown at a particular situation, people use it to be an attitude to harm oneself or to achieve control over others. Sometimes, a way to act powerful or to fight injustice in a different manner.

    As you have mentioned, I feel it’s true that what matters is how we deal with the anger and irritation. It’s been well said in the article that they are a probable cause of issues like depression and anxiety, if not controlled.

    1. Thanks George and welcome to the site. I think you’re second paragraph sums up your response beautifully. The problem with anger is that I’m not sure how many people understand or see themselves as angry.

      Although that person may not set out to use anger as a means to control, that is what it becomes.

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