Anger turns to bitterness

Although emotional pain is formed from anger, we tend to direct it at those who have nothing to do with how we feel. Instead, we unconsciously carry the issues long after they’re finished and become bitter.

When continued, anger turns corrosive, and that causes us to become embroiled in our own personal battle, as we begin to shift our angry internal thoughts, on to others. It’s the most destructive and toxic of human emotions that eventually turns us into victims.

It gets us nowhere and it’s us who pays the ultimate price. Anger can:

  • Exacerbate and prolong mental and emotional pain;
  • Stop us from living in the present;
  • Interfere with us cultivating healthy relationships,
  • Lead us to doubt and question our relationships and connection with others;
  • Lead to anxiety and depression if left to build up;
  • Also lead to cynicism and distrust in our relationships and between family and friends;
  • Make us feel negative and unhappy;
  • Create feuds in relationships, prompting others to say something or for them to turn away from us;
  • Also compromise our emotional and physical health;

Sadly, the truth is that it’s easy for us to become obsessed, angry and bitter at the injustices of life and we fall into the trap of blaming others, who aren’t the perpetrator.

But even though bitterness my start out as hurt, it’s not an excuse us giving others a hard time, particularly if and when our anger  has nothing to do with those we share our life with.

Anger tends to start through an injustice that isn’t corrected and is left to fester and usually starts in childhood.

2 Sep, 2018

4 thoughts on “Anger turns to bitterness

  1. All of the above has happened to me. Anger ruled my life and the person who was hurt the most was me. I have wasted most of my life being angry and bitter because of what happened and forgot about the things that could be done.

    We were well trained in the art of being hypercritical and judgmental about everyone else, but never had a chance to really figure out what we truly believed in.

    I’m very tired at this point of basically just existing when I know there is so much more to life. I have watched so many others enjoy the fruits of their labor, while I sat back and became resentful, when I could have been doing exactly the same thing.

    I need to work on letting go of that anger and those resentments which is what I should have been doing all along, but never quite felt worthy of.

    1. You’re worthy Randy, please don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Yes, when we lose the confidence we feel unworthy, particularly when those around us have more confidence than us.

      But I believe with work on yourself, you can initially change certain aspects of your life around. Since anger starts in childhood and with anger issues myself as a child, I know how it goes. But the anger wasn’t about you and I think that helps.

      We can come through even stronger and with more understanding, but we must put the emotional work in. I have to admit that as a child, I wasn’t exactly fully aware of just how everything worked.

      Although it would take me until 46 to find out that I had cerebral palsy, my anger began to dissipate once I left home at the age of 26. That’s when the work on myself started.

      But even when the anger issues aren’t down to us, we still have to work through the anger we feel, regardless of the perpetrators.

  2. We can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward.

    This doesn’t in any way diminish the acts of those who have wronged us but enables us to heal, and brings us peace to move on with our lives.

    Your website has taught me the value of forgiveness in these terms.

    1. Thank you! Yes, my website and blogs take us by the hand literally, allowing us to make our own choices on forgiveness.

      If we choose not to forgive, we can still move forward with without holding on to bitterness. When we bring about understanding, we become informed and that helps us decide whether we will forgive or not.

      But if anyone is dealing with anger it’s important that is addressed. Anger isn’t something we should ignore because if left it will turn into resentment.

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