Angry people hurt people. It takes strength and courage from us to take a step back and remind ourselves that being angry, or hurt because we hurt doesn’t mean we have to hurt others.
Whether we’re on the receiving end, or we’re handing out the hurt, all our reactions stem from past experiences that lead us to certain assumptions we believe are true. We must also remind ourselves that other people’s reactions towards us are not about us. They are about what they’ve had to deal with in their past and what they continue to deal with in their present.
But it’s something we must all work to change. There is no excuse. It’s wrong to lash out just because we can, and because we’re hurting. Inflicting hurt on others achieves nothing and two wrongs don’t make a right. Just more hurt inflicted on those we love who have nothing to do with our hurt and what we’ve had to live through.
In effect, unleashing our anger on to others, only causes us more pain, primarily because where we project and take our anger out on others, those projections will make their way back. We cannot put hurt out there and not expect a dose of hurt back.
And where other people’s malicious projections are a direct attack on us, those projections don’t belong to us. But being hurt doesn’t mean we should hurt others.