Apologise or walk away

It’s irritating when people choose to walk away from relationships, rather than offer an apology if they’ve done something wrong and won’t put things right.

It takes more effort if you choose to walk away, than it does to apologise. No one is infallible. Perhaps we need to centre our ego on what’s right, so that our integrity stays intact, rather than let people think ill of us, because we choose to walk away.

To apologise isn’t weakness, it’s strength of character, a determination for us to right a wrong. A successful apology requires empathy and strength to admit failure, fault and weakness. Non-apologies are ego-driven, the ego gets bruised and we still fail to apologise.

There are two reasons why we should at least think about an apology. Saying sorry allows us to salvage, or restore a relationship that we clearly once cared about. To walk away for the sake of an ego means the ego has won and we have no say. Walking away brings its own challenges with a new situation that takes us out of our comfort zone.

Not apologising doesn’t change what the universe knows to be true, even if we choose not to admit it. Nothing ever goes away, until we deal with it. Whether we choose to be accountable or not, if the reason we’re walking away is down to us, we will still be accountable.

Unfortunately, and so it goes that whilst we’ve decided to walk away and we’re not making ourselves accountable, in the process we will also have lost what was a very good friend.

17 Oct, 2016

2 thoughts on “Apologise or walk away

  1. Sometimes that pebble in my mouth is my tongue, when I can’t bring myself to apologize to someone who hurt me. I guess it’s the swollen bruise to my ego and to the gentle person that I am.

    But you’re right, an apology is the best way to help ease the strain, instead of carrying that stone in my stomach.

    1. Thanks Tim. It’s the person who hurts us who should do the apologising, but where that doesn’t happen we have to be able to deal with the situation ourselves.

      I tend to go in and explain why I’m hurt in the hope the apology is forthcoming. An apology is always the best way to help ease the strain on both side. It’s a shame people don’t quite get that particularly where the ego is involved.

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