There is no reason for people to change when they’re allowed to get away with bad behaviour.
Any unaddressed issues over time will begin to seep into their habitual behaviour, through their personal operating system, but unless their behaviour is dealt with as a child, as adults they won’t work to change and will continue to get away with their bad behaviour.
Even with strategies in place, there are no guarantees children will fall into line, but strategies are a start and are better than nothing. There are times when the underlying signs of inappropriate behaviour aren’t diagnosed or are a smokescreen for a bigger underlying problem.
Any behaviour that is bad or inappropriate will not only drive other people away, but will inevitably be the reason we end up pushing others away, because there is only so much others will put up with.
Children will always play up if they’re struggling emotionally and is often where a child’s inappropriate behaviour begins. It’s up to family to find out and understand why. My behaviour as a child, was a non-diagnosis of what would turn out to be a massive revelation for me, years down the line.
As adults, when communication breaks down or turns into bad or inappropriate behaviour and that behaviour becomes more frequent, then we will need to take a step back and assess where we are emotionally.