Many of us who are confident turn out to be arrogant.
Unfortunately, over-confidence can spill into arrogance and no one likes arrogance, let alone having to deal with someone who is arrogant. Confident people ooze optimism and that makes them emotionally strong, but it’s often seeing themselves as superior that changes the state of play.
People who are outwardly arrogant are single-minded. In their mind, they think they’re already superior to others; but the reality is that inwardly they believe they’re inferior. The arrogance we see in others is often a cover up, of how we feel about ourselves, particularly when it comes to dealing with other people we see as superior.
Arrogant people will make themselves feel better by tearing others down, where confident people who already feel good about themselves, will have no desire to tear people down. Confident people will have respect for others, where arrogant people will have difficulty listening to others and instead will listen to themselves. Unfortunately, arrogant people won’t be told anything and will often preach to others.
Where confident people claim fame to their own success and are humbled by all that they’ve achieved, arrogant people will have no hesitation in letting you know what they’ve achieved. It’s almost impossible to communicate with those who are arrogant, because they always think they’re right. They only take their position on things.
Confidence comes from being optimistic and positive, whereas arrogance is the result of a defence mechanism brought about years of unconscious thinking to prevent being criticised further, therefore we must be confident, not arrogant.