I’ve heard it said, ‘don’t criticise what you don’t understand.’ When it comes to other people’s problems it seems easy enough, but in practice it’s not what we do.
Instead we come in from a place of knowing, when in reality we know very little, when it comes to other people and what they deal with. We fall into a pattern where we have an opinion, we criticise, we assume, or we think we know.
We become less critical, however, when we walk in another person’s shoes and experience what they experience. When we come to experience the same things for ourselves we gain an insight into what that other people deal with, instead of thinking we know.
Sadly, armchair knowledge as it’s known is a dangerous thing. For those who practice it, most conversations will include their opinions restated as knowledge, whether their knowledge is correct. Isn’t it better to support and listen, rather than assume, be critical, or think we know what other people deal with?
We help by listening and allowing others to talk freely, instead of us coming in from a place of thinking we know, when we don’t really know.