No one likes being duped. It’s the feeling that comes when we realise the wool has been pulled, didn’t see we were being duped, lied or even taken advantage of.
Why would someone dupe us?
Well someone doesn’t just dupe. It’s often more complicated than that. It’s a lifestyle choice brought about by emotional internal factors that are sometimes too ingrained to easily be dealt with. So much so they don’t see it as being wrong.
There is no doubt that those who choose to live this life have emotional health issues. They will struggle to deal with the most simplest of tasks and will struggle emotionally and spiritually. Someone with these character traits may even be described as a sociopath.
So what about being duped?
Being duped is often done as part of a scam, something we come to learn about, but have no idea the process exists or would even result in that particular outcome. It doesn’t matter how we’re duped, being duped is being duped.
The scenario surrounding the wrongful deed is what matters the most; the wrongful deed is immaterial in my mind. If we work on the assumption that it’s something we could never have prevented or changed we shouldn’t feel guilty or bad about it. It doesn’t make what happened right, but it can bring understanding into the equation.
To the rest of us with an ordinary thinking brain it is obvious that such an action is wrong. Without a mental illness attached to these scenarios, it would be difficult to understand why any would act this way. We must therefore come to terms with why someone would unconsciously choose to do this.
A mental illness comes in many guises. It’s not something anyone else can prepare for, because they’re not often aware of how it works until it happens and that’s the point. It’s also not something you should take personally.