Being empathetic

It is our ability to put ourselves in another person’s shoes that reduces our risk of becoming anxious and bullying other people. Those are the findings of neuroscientists, educators and psychologists. Empathy is the key to human and social interaction and morality.

Infancy, which is where it all begins, is critical for the development of empathy. Although children by nature are resilient and have known to thrive despite abuse and neglect, there are studies that show that children who experience early trauma in childhood are at a much greater risk of becoming aggressive that can lead to bullying other children and being victimised by other bullies.

Because nearly 90% of brain growth takes place in the first five years of life, children subjected to neglect or abuse within the first five years will fail to make the right attachments. Unfortunately, any form of deficit that occurs in childhood, may impact later behaviour.

Research undertaken by Martin Hoffman, a professor of psychology at New York University and a pioneer of empathy research says, “You can enhance empathy by the way you treat children, or you can kill it by providing a harsh punitive environment.”

Often through our own emotional or mental struggles, we can become aware from an early age what empathy is. Through our own struggles, we will not only recognise empathy, but we will also have the ability to understand how empathy works, but first we must be open to its teachings.

Unfortunately, without empathy we will have very little to base our relationships on. Whilst we’re lucky to have it, it’s not easy for those who don’t, but empathy is something that we can all learn, even if it’s not there to start with. It stands to reason that the more empathy we have, the more we will be empathetic towards others.

It is important we don’t neglect ourselves. Being an empath can be draining but it’s always rewarding when other people begin to thrive because of it. Society and individuals need to introduce the change.

15 Feb, 2015

6 thoughts on “Being empathetic

  1. Empathy is something I know a lot about and it has also been one of my biggest downfalls!

    People can pick up on this like animals can smell fear and will use it to take advantage of you. I definitely had more than enough trauma by the time I was 5, to have severely damaged my chances of making the normal connections that children do.

    I was brainwashed into caring for people that I really didn’t like, so I lost the ability to pick up on the differences. I haven’t really discussed empathy with a lot of people as most don’t believe it’s real.

    I have had to accept that it is the only reason I had for surviving my childhood; for the times I did listen to my instincts and ignored what I had been taught!

    1. Thanks Randy. We certainly do learn quickly when we have empathy and are taken advantage of, you’re right. All I would say is continue to use empathy where you feel it’s appropriate. Not everyone will appreciate your empath.

      It also helps to avoid being taken advantage of. Sometimes it’s important to go with our gut on that.

  2. It’s empathy that keeps me spiritually centered. I genuinely care about the plight of others because I realize that someone else’s misfortune could be my own.

    It’s the energy from an empathetic soul that could very well save a life.

    1. Thanks Tim. I agree with you. We also don’t know if and when the energy from an empathetic soul may touch our lives too.

    1. Thanks Lisa. It’s hard to say No when that’s often what we need to say.

      We can still be empathetic, but still need to say No if what’s being asked of us isn’t right for us. I think we need to draw distinctions in our own lives so we know when it’s right to say no and right to say yes.

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