Being judgmental

8 Jan 2017

Having a belief gives us a focus and helps with self-esteem and confidence issues to a certain extent. They keep us grounded, give us a sense of purpose, a sense of being and help us to continue to stay focused, but that’s not the problem.

The problem is that non-believers (those who don’t have our beliefs) may begin to interfere with our beliefs, in a way that can potentially cause conflict. Non-believers generally have little tolerance for those who believe and in doing so, they become judgmental, instead of being accepting of others’ beliefs.

It is generally accepted that we’re different and will hold different beliefs. That is what makes us unique and that makes it acceptable. What isn’t acceptable is thinking we know, not understanding, being intolerant and then standing in judgment on other people’s beliefs.

We can bring our own thinking into any equation, but it’s not okay to have an attitude of being judgmental, which comes across as arrogance and has a connotation of passing harsh judgments in a condescending way that belittles those with their beliefs.

It has always been accepted that people will have their opinions and will therefore make judgments, but we should never be judgmental in our attitude towards others. Whatever our beliefs, judging others just isn’t acceptable.

6 Responses to “Being judgmental”

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  1. Bonnie Johns 08. Jan, 2017 at 11:17 pm #

    What a great blog. I wish more people would read this to understand each other and pass with the judgements.

    • Ilana 09. Jan, 2017 at 7:05 am #

      Thanks Bonnie!

  2. Brad 09. Jan, 2017 at 6:35 pm #

    I really dislike anyone being judgmental, like they are in a position of superiority; it’s just not right. As you say we are all different and our beliefs are our own and shouldn’t be imposed on others.

    It’s about respecting others’ opinions beliefs and rights, sadly lacking in the world today.

    • Ilana 09. Jan, 2017 at 7:12 pm #

      As you say respecting others’ opinions, beliefs and rights are sadly lacking in the world, in society, in our homes and relationships.

      It really is a shame because we should all be working together so that judgments are a thing of the past.

  3. Tim 10. Jan, 2017 at 7:49 pm #

    Over the years, my conversations have grown more personable, but only with like minded people. I tend to keep my opinions to myself otherwise, to avoid the appearance of being judgmental.

    However, some people’s minds are buried under several feet of you know what.

    • Ilana 10. Jan, 2017 at 8:26 pm #

      Thanks Tim. Yes, except I’m sure those people probably wouldn’t agree. We can give advice or an opinion to someone, or who we can stand in judgment on something someone is choosing to do that we don’t agree with.

      Unless we’re talking to like minded individuals, having an opinion or being judgmental with anyone else; would be like having a conversation with ourselves; that opinion or judgment would fall on deaf ears.

      I agree conversations must be personable.

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