Sometimes we’re better off staying away from people who almost make not being nice an art form. They’re mean.
They’re also not the people you would choose to spend time with. As a nation, we’ve become more self-centred, more aloof, less patient, more selfish. We’re emotionally distracted. We don’t take the time to listen, to connect with others, let alone show we’re nice people.
Perhaps we also need to stop making others feel like they’re to blame for what we’ve had to deal with and instead take the initiative and responsibility for ourselves and how we make other people feel. Those people seem more intent on bringing others down.
To compensate, nice people end up putting up the barriers so that they’re not seen a pushover. They tend to have to protect themselves, stand their ground. To the not so nice people, choose to sort out the baggage that stops you from being nice and allow others to be who they are.
Personally, I don’t get why people can’t be nice. Why people can’t be more tolerant, caring and conciliatory? For those people, perhaps it’s time to begin to recognise your not so nice traits. If you not being nice is down to your past bad experiences, then choose to sort those out.
Sadly, nice people get to spend a lifetime with sour and angry people, which in itself is emotionally damaging, but that’s no excuse. Being nice is all that is required.