Being our own worst enemy

We dwell and continue to pull ourselves down, comparing ourselves to others we think are perfect, with the reality being they’re no more perfect than we are and we’re by no means perfect. ‘We can be our own worst enemy.’

It’s the self-critical voice that’s defeating before we’re off the starting block, or perhaps it’s the self-loathing, but perhaps not to that degree. I’ve been there. But if anxiety or depression are reasons for the self-critical voice, we can with help get to change those too. Depression comes from our inability to cope with our lives.

Depression is an alert. It’s the mind’s way of telling us that all is not well. That what we’re doing isn’t working and needs to change. Depression is something we endure. To deal with depression, perhaps we must begin to look at the key elements of why we have depression and work to change those.

Depression is attached to a history of events that we’re struggling to come to terms with that we’ve ignored or don’t know we have, because those thoughts are out of reach. But if we were to look back through our experiences, we can usually pinpoint exactly why we’re depressed.

It’s a cry for help, it’s telling others we need help, but we must be prepared to accept that we need help. Depression attaches itself to our experiences, but it can’t do the work for us that’s something we must do for ourselves. When I look back on my own experiences, it’s clear my experiences were very much the catalyst for how I felt.

It’s the issues we put on the back burner, the issues we fail to talk about or address. It’s not enough for us to leave or ignore those issues. We must address our issues and act on change.

*If you feel you have or struggle with depression, always seek help.*

24 Feb, 2018

2 thoughts on “Being our own worst enemy

  1. Yes, I have definitely been my own worst enemy! I have treated myself far worse than any other person has, for making mistakes that have only proved that I am human.

    Choices like ending up with a woman so much like my mother, rather than even attempt to be with one who could have made me happy, are just one of so many prime examples.

    I have been so very resentful of others who seem to have such an easy time of life, when I have had to struggle on a daily basis just to survive. We had to make a lot of adult decisions with only the knowledge of children, which wasn’t fair but makes sense as to why my siblings and I have ended up the way we did.

    The most I can do now, is try to work on forgiving myself for only being human and try to make the best of what time I do have left, so that I finally live, rather than just exist like I always have.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, the first step to any healing, is to own up to our mistakes and now how we are.

      You’ve done that. Now it’s a matter of coming out your comfort zone on the changes you know you need to make and taking the plunge.

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