Pessimism can spill over into anyone’s lives, at any point. Research also shows there can be a genetic disposition to us being pessimistic. Being pessimistic is something learned.
Early life experiences will often open the floodgates to how we cope with our lives now, where we feel we have no control because of other people and past events. It can make us feel overwhelmed, useless and incompetent, sad and alone, withdrawn and empty inside.
Other people with similar stories may see their lives in a completely different light, by not allowing their past experiences to interfere in their present-day lives. Sadly, whether pessimism is learned, innate or acquired, it stops us from moving forward and can seriously compromise our health.
People who are pessimistic are more likely to struggle and will be more prone to setbacks, than those who are optimistic. Pessimists see situations as bleak and tend to criticise themselves for their setbacks and will see their bad luck as a sign they’ve failed or are simply not worthy of themselves, or their success.
Being pessimistic isn’t something we easily see in ourselves, it’s usually others who will point it out to us and tell us that is what we are.