Why is that we’re rude to people who are nice? We know they’re nice and yet we can’t stop ourselves. It’s as though we hate that they’re nice, that they have their emotions together and we don’t.
Perhaps it’s because others haven’t been nice to us and we’re passing that hurt on to nice people, because we want them to hurt too. Perhaps it’s because we’re dealing with dark thoughts and feelings and those thoughts are bringing out the worst in us. Perhaps our dark side is much stronger therefore we end up not being nice, even rude.
Perhaps it’s also got something to do with the fact that we’re uncomfortable that ‘nice people’ seem to have it all. We struggle and therefore don’t tolerate the way they handle themselves and that’s something we’re annoyed by. Perhaps we want to punish them because them being ‘nice’ reminds us that we’re not nice.
We’re weak and don’t like that they have their act together. There’s also another train of thought. That being rude to nice people is us punishing them for them reminding us how weak we really are. But I’m not convinced, we see those things in ourselves. It’s usually the other person’s problem.
We think it’s about the other person, when the reality is, it’s about us. We don’t stop to think how not being nice will affect others, we do what we do, without a regard for the other person. Somehow them being ‘nice’ brings out the worst in us.
But generally, we don’t stop to think about the impact of our actions on other people’s feelings. And to a point we probably don’t even care. That’s where we’re going wrong because we need to care. We need to be nice.